Are You Ready To Get Your Ex Back Today?
The first few days when you just got out of a relationship
, your life simply just slows down and turns upside down that you become depressed and desperate for love. The easiest and fastest way to get love again is to fall back on your previous relationship which is your ex. Is that the easy way out? Are you being weak by taking the shortest route? Wait a minute. Just hold your horses before you get too far off with your wandering thoughts. Let's hit back to basics first.Are you emotionally calm?
Normally when we just got out of a relationship, our emotions is high and we use our butt to think about everything. You tend to start blaming why do you have to go through this. Am I not good enough for her/him? It is all him/her fault for this breakup. Your mind is going round and round in finding things to point and trying to reason yourself with self-created answers to justify your lost in the relationship. When you have lost something, the next step after blaming is, the wanting of getting back to your ex because you cannot take the emptiness, because you feel empty inside. And it goes on and on. You need to stop all these.
Give yourself some time to cool off. Find yourself back. Take a Step back. Once you have found yourself back, only then you have found your reasonable mind.
Why Is Getting Your Ex Back Important?
We all make mistakes and we all deserve a second chance in everything, just make sure you learn the mistakes you have made. You need to ask yourself this question time after time. Is she really worth it? List out the reasons why you want to get your ex back and weight them. If he/she is still the best in the world, I advice you not to give up and get your ex back and cherish him/her well this time.
Reality Check
Look yourself in the mirror before you start getting your ex back. I'm pretty sure that your ex would never want to see you in your worst state of depression. You may change your image and find back that confidences you use to have when you were going after her. Be a better guy than you used to be and be the person whom you made your ex fall in love with.
Don't rush into anything. Start breaking the Berlin Wall in between both of you. Start from small things just like when you were new to her in the past. Arouse his/her interest by talking on the phone or SMS, talk about some things you guys love to do in the past which has a lot of good memories. Go for casual meals. As time goes by, things will be better and you'll know what to do by then, just remember don't force anything. A broken heart takes time to mend.
by: Crassula Yim