Cheating Husbands-Signs and Reasons Why they Cheat
Do you suspect your spouse of cheating? We all know that being the victim of adultery can be a heart wrenching and painful experience
. Even suspecting and not really knowing can be equally as painful. The following is a list of activities to look for to find out if your spouse is cheating and a list of some reasons why husbands cheat.
Examples of clues to look for to determine if your spouse is cheating
1. Work hours change- working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal.
2. Has more secrets
Secret phone calls and erases the history of phone calls
Hidden cell phone or credit card bills
Has to step outside to take a call
Pass word protects computer accounts
3. Change in intimacy or unexplained aloofness may show indifference in your relationship and is much less concerned about spending time with the family. Difficulty in getting a spouse to talk about events of the day can be a sign of trying to hide the second life.
4. Creates unnecessary conflicts-creates conflicts to draw the attention away from them as a smokescreen to waylay suspicions.
5. Subtle changes- for the better in dress and general appearance.
6. Odd behavior- some behaviors include not being where he was expected to be, unexplained missing time, missing money, receipts for things you don't have, missing clothing, clothing that does not belong to your family and lies about the details of the day.
The signs may vary and there may be a combination of the above. Pay attention to the signs and your instincts, but be careful not to confuse signs with proof.
Reasons why some men cheat in marriage
1. Income is less than their wives, or income is much greater than their wives. Men who make less than their wives cheat as a way of restoring their threatened gender identity and to regain power. However, men are also likely to cheat if they make much more than their wives because they have more opportunities to cheat.
2. Not sexually satisfied- they want to be fully satisfied. Many women are not good enough in bed to keep their partner sexually happy. Men want to maintain that spark and excitement and to be fully satisfied.
3. They are not satisfied with themselves- and not dissatisfied with their partner. They want to feel different and be different.
4. They crave excitement they want something different in their lives on a daily basis and need change and variety. They have a desire to be liked by attractive women. They especially are venerable when an attractive woman is attracted to them. It makes them feel special and wanted. Many men want to live out fantasies. Nothing can replace the excitement of, and the satisfaction from, having new experiences with new female partners.
5. Because they can-if they have the opportunity, they can and will cheat. They feel no moral obligation to remain faithful. As stated by Bill Clinton, "Because I could."
6. Poor character development-they thrive on dishonesty. Some men obtain a perverted satisfaction from having secret relationships, accumulating sexual conquests, or deceiving their spouse.
7. Sexual addiction- a condition in which sexual gratification is compulsively sought in a frequency or manner not available in the marriage. Unlike the person with poor character development, the sex addict generally feels remorse at some point, but feels helpless to stop the behavior
8. Dissatisfaction within the marriage-there is no effective way to communicate dissatisfaction within the marriage. Some couples don't communicate their feelings. There may be an assumption that voicing dissatisfaction is unacceptable, or that it indicates an inadequate marriage.
If you suspect your spouse might be cheating, watch for the signs, do some investigating and then talk to him about what you've found. Do it in a calm and courteous manner. Ask for honesty, but be prepared for lies. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. Trust you instincts but also get hard, cold proof.
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By: Audrey J Robinson Ph.D
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