Counseling - Why is Sex So Important to Men?
Sex is very important to men, but too few women have any idea why it is that way
. Sex is also important to women, but with men sex can be compared to a vehicle, while with most women sex is more like a destination. A little understanding regarding the opposite sex's viewpoint can go a long way to building more harmony in the marriage.Ladies, think of a time where you were apart from your man for a long period of time. Perhaps a time when one of you was out of town for work. The top priority for your man, when the two of you got back together, was sex. If you're like many women, your first desire was to hear about his trip or share some details about yours. The idea of having sex comes after the mood has been set through the process of talking and sharing.In some ways women and men are almost polar opposites of each other.Men are 90% physical and 10% emotional.
Women are 90% emotional and 10% physical.The different choices women and men make when they socialize with friends of the same sex, provides a clear example their gender differences. The sharing of life experiences and how they feel about them, is what women spend time discussing. Of vital importance to their conversation, are the details of what people were involved and their subsequent feelings. On the other hand, guys will go see an action flick, shoot some pool, or get together to what a football game. When they're out with their friends, they do activities that are action oriented.Through physical activity, men most commonly express themselves. In contrast to what a typical woman would do, they share a lot less personal information.In social situations men are most commonly asked what they are doing for work. Yet, whether in the workplace or at home, women are most often asked how they're doing. The question is focused on the feelings of the woman being asked. Men are asked about what actions they're engaged in. What are you doing? Men are infrequently asked how they're are doing. What we do tends to define us more than how we're doing.A male's action orientation is rooted in both biology and social conditioning. A wide range of emotional expressions is not common to most men.A key reason sex is so important to men, is it allows us to access our emotions more easily. Please take a moment to read that last statement again, it's really important. A man is able to let his gaurd down and become more vulnerable through sex with his wife. As a result, a man is more capable of engaging in a deeper level of vulnerability and intimacy with his wife. Countless women long for a deeper connection with their husband. A more intimate relationship with their man is what they want.How women often view men is flawed. They wrongly measure them by their unique female basis for sex. Most women want to feel some emotional bond, warmth, tenderness with their husband before they have sex. In order to create an intimate emotional bond, men commonly want to have sex.
Counseling - Why is Sex So Important to Men?
By: Chris Keenan