Contested divorces cost families thousands of dollars
, go on for years, almost guarantee many more years of post-divorce problems, never allow for the necessary emotional recovery from a divorce and worst of all, put your children directly in the middle of the entire process. Most parents would never dream of doing this to their children. However, when divorce happens, negative emotions take over and that is exactly what happens. Loving parents become combatants and will whatever they can to "get" their spouse, even using the children to get what they want. If you feel something like this is going to happen during your divorce and you want to avoid it, a combination of therapy and mediation may be able to help out. Therapy helps couples with the complex emotions associated with divorce and mediators assist with the business end of the process. This combination has proven to be less detrimental on families and allowed for quicker healing after a divorce.