Face Book and Jet Set Swingers - church scandal
Face Book and Jet Set Swingers - church scandal
A New Jersey pastor who fiercely criticised Facebook and JetSetSwingers as a "portals to infidelity" has admitted to taking part in a three-way sexual relationship with his wife and a male church assistant.
Rev Cedric Miller claimed that Facebook "ignites old passions" and ordered about 50 married church officials to delete their accounts with the social networking site or resign from their leadership positions.
Rev Cedric Miller, who fiercely criticised Facebook and JetSetSwingersas a "portals to infidelity."
"I've been in extended counselling with couples with marital problems because of Facebook for the last year and a half," he said. "What happens is someone from yesterday surfaces, it leads to conversations and there have been physical meet-ups. The temptation is just too great."
Details about his three-way affair came from court evidence he had given in 2003 against the male church assistant.
Miller, pastor of the 1,100-member Living Word Christian Fellowship Church in New Jersey, admitted in his testimony to a sexual relationship that included his wife and a church assistant.
In his testimony on April 15, 2003, Miller said his wife had an extramarital affair with a church assistant and that he (Miller) said he was present at many of their meetings. And sometimes the assistant's wife was present, Miller said.
"We would talk and laugh and play and just beyond what was appropriate,'' he testified.
When asked by a defense lawyer to give more detail about what Miller meant by saying "we had crossed the line many times,'' the pastor said: "I mean between the four of us. It was just, I mean there was touching, there wasit was crazy, it was as wrong as wrong could get. Yes.''
In an email response to the Asbury Park Press last Friday, Miller said: "It has come to my attention that a very painful part of my past has resurfaced,'' adding that the same testimony was mailed to his church leaders and other pastors a number of years ago.
"This was resolved at that time and accordingly we will not allow it to detract from our mission at hand to save as many marriages as we can,'' Miller wrote.
Regardless of his moral hypocrisy, it seems that Miller's argument may be one founded on evidence rather than speculation.
Divorce-Online, a law firm specialising in divorce, claimed almost one in five petitions they processed cited Facebook.
Mark Keenan, Managing Director said: "I had heard from my staff that there were a lot of people saying they had found out things about their partners on Facebook and I decided to see how prevalent it was I was really surprised to see 20% of all the petitions containing references
to Facebook."
A 2008 report by the Pew Internet and American Life Project revealed that approximately one in five adults uses Facebook for flirting.
It seems Facebook isn't the only online portal which can lead to marital infidelity. In fact, one site, jetsetswingers.com, is aimed directly at helping married people to have affairs.
"You may be locked in a loveless marriage, starved of attention and affection, partner away or too tired to pay you the attention you deserve," the website states. "Or perhaps you are simply looking to inject some excitement back into your life? But you don't want to end your marriage either. at Jet Set Swingers (jetsetswingers.com) you can meet people just like you, in absolute confidence."
With modern technology making it increasingly simple to communicate in covert ways it seems that for some social networking sites are where love blossoms and, for others, where their marriage falters.
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