Get An Ex Back With Common Sense Tips
Have you recently broken up with someone you love
? Would you love to get back together with them but not sure what can be done? If you are sitting all alone and depressed, it's understandable. Coping with break ups is difficult. You keep going over and over what you should you do to get back your ex but you aren't sure where to begin.Here are a few basic common sense tips of how to win back your ex. Some of them might seem obvious, but particularly when you in emotional turmoil, common sense isn't all that common. And it doesn't always make a lot of sense!
It is only common sense that to win back your love you need to treat your ex with respect. Stop the negativity and communicate in a courteous and well behaved manner. Have you been thoughtless, have you lied, or been critical of your ex? You need to ask yourself if you were guilty of any of those behaviors and if they led to the break up with your ex. And if you are, stop these behaviors immediately!
Remember when you first met? What did you see in each other? Remember what part of you "showed up" during that time and be that person now. If you are no longer the lovable, caring person you were then, figure out where that version of you went and bring it back. Be someone that your ex would want to be with.
Sometimes when we aren't being our best self, it helps to "act as if". Even if you don't feel like being that fun, loving person, act as if you are and then you will find that you bit by bit turn back into that person. You may have heard that we smile when we're happy AND when we smile, it makes us happy. Try it! Your ex will notice the difference and be impressed and plus it will make you feel good about yourself.
Now think about "who you were" just prior to your break up. Put yourself in your ex's shoes. Would you really want to be with this later version of you?
Here is another piece of common sense advice. Never lie to your ex to get them back. Never pump yourself up deceptively. Don't play silly games no matter what advice you have read. You're not in high school any more. Don't play hard to get, make them jealous, or demean them in any way. Even if it worked short term, it more than likely will come back to bite you in the end (pun intended) and you could lose that special person forever.
Regardless of who was guilty of mistreating who, do you sincerely love that person so much that you don't want to be without them? If your relationship really means so much to you, then why don't you be the one to take the initiative to get back with your ex?
by: Deane Alban