Getting Your Ex Back - Be Upbeat And Optimistic
After a break up, getting your ex back may not be the first thing on your list
. Even if they had made you miserable, you were, at least, miserable with someone and not alone. Often, one of the hardest things to get used to is the quiet and alone time that you have not had in a awhile, if ever. When life settles down, the emotional rollercoaster you are going through starts to have fewer loops. You have had some time to think about what went wrong and have stopped blaming your ex. Now you have realized that it was, at least partially, your fault and you begin to wonder how it got that bad in the first place.Even though you can't change what was done or said, you may have decided that you want them back. It can be possible to get back together if you plan it right. When working towards getting your ex back, try to be cheerful. Instead of focusing on how bad things were, change your perspective to the positive side. This is especially important when running into your ex, whether by design or by accident. Talk about what you are doing each day at work, funny stories about friends and co-workers. Talk about anything that is upbeat and humorous. Enjoy the time you have with them and share some laughter together. This will make it less awkward and both of you will be more at ease.
When your ex is relaxed and enjoying the conversation, they are more likely to remember why they fell in love with you in the first place. Don't expect a single conversation to change the state of affairs. Expectations could put undue stress on both of you, making it even harder to get your relationship back. Try to stay away from the blame game. Do not argue about who did what. Each of you has your own opinions and that is ok. If you are going to build a relationship, bringing up the past or insisting that you are right, will only make matters worse. Keep conversations light and optimistic. Talk about the plans you have for your future.
Even if getting your ex back is not successful, you need to have a plan for your future. Decide what you want to do for the next few years and set some goals. Do some things you always wanted to do. Showing confidence, achieving goals and chasing your dreams is attractive. You have a life and a purpose.
Support your ex by lending an ear when they need it. Boost their confidence, by giving them encouragement. Being supportive and understanding will show your ex how much you care. All good relationships begin with a solid friendship.
You see, I'm just a regular guy that has suffered the heartache of breaking up with my own girlfriend, Cindy. After trying endless times, I finally found something that worked and now we are back together again.
Are you ready to be re-united with your loved one? Don't wait a minute longer! Now is the best time to make them fall in love with you all over again!
by: Troy Truman