Get Your Ex Back Fast With This Powerful Yet Simple Strategy
Did you just break up and are wondering what to do
?I think the worst pain imaginable is having the person you love tell you that they want to break up. Personally, I'd rather suffer a broken limb than go through that kind of pain.
Breaking up has happened to just about everyone. I always try to look at it as a good thing, because it means I was fortunate enough to fall in love.
I know how much it hurts, but there is good news. The fact is that most people get back together, and they do it within a month of breaking up.
If you really want to get your ex back, you'll be racking your brain about how you can do it. Especially if it's your first time. The first thing you'll do is bring it up in conversation to your friends and family. Here are some of the answers you'll get:
"You'll get over it."
"Everything happens for a reason."
"There are a lot of fish in the sea."
"It's his/her loss."
"He/she wasn't good enough for you anyway."
And my personal favorite: "Time heals all wounds."
Did any of those answers help you? My guess is no.
Even though the people who told you those things had the right intentions, they still said the wrong things. It's only because people really don't know what to say to another person in that situation.
Most people just get uncomfortable, and so they blurt out a generic response for fear of saying the wrong thing. Some people are careless, however, and may even start talking trash about your ex.
Don't be too hard on them, they're only saying those things because they think it's what you want to hear.
So what should you do? Before I answer that question, let me explain a little about what happens after a breakup that makes it harder to get back together.
In most cases, a breakup doesn't blindside either individual. If they were paying the least bit of attention to their relationship they should have seen it coming at least a little way off.
The first reaction of the person who was broken up with is to immediately start calling and texting their ex and trying to get a better explanation.
That's only a ruse. They may be asking for an explanation, but what they really want to do is feel their ex out to see if they still love them. Nine times out of ten, your ex is not going to tell you that.
Instead what's going to happen is they are going to start being "busy" whenever you call, or even having others answer the phone for them.
They are going to become distant, and avoid contact with you. The more they behave this way, the more you are going to push. This cycle is what can kill your chances of getting your ex back.
So how do you avoid this? Here's the secret:
Act like the breakup doesn't concern you.
That's right. Don't plead, don't beg, and whatever you do-don't cry.
Most people won't heed this advice, and do you know why? Because they think that if they get down on their knees and beg like a dog, their ex wil miraculously see how much they care and change their mind.
Let me let you in on a small truth: They won't.
You needn't panic, however, because there is one way that you can get them to see the light.
In order to do this, you have to do the opposite of what they expect you to do, and that's to act nonchalant toward the whole thing.
This will take some discipline on your part, because you are going to want to curl up in the fetal position and start wailing.
Another impulse you're going to have is the desire to lash out at them, and to curse at and berate them.
I completely understand this. I know the feeling. You think to yourself, "How could they not want me?" And, "How dare they do this to me!"
You've got to resist this urge. Instead you've got to calmly tell them that you understand and hope that you can still be friends. Trust me, the look on their face will be completely worth it.
If you've played your cards right, you've acted nonchalant at the break up and walked away. You're now ready for the next stage. And that's the post-breakup phone call.
There is a lot of debate over how long one should wait. Personally, I would wait at least a month. Chances are you won't have to because your ex will call you first.
If you follow the above strategy, you'll be on the right track to getting your ex back fast.
by: Chris Mollo