Get Your Ex Back - How to Re-Establish Contact by Leaving a Short Message
Get Your Ex Back - How to Re-Establish Contact by Leaving a Short Message
You want to get your ex back but your ex is avoiding all contact with you? Has he/she made it clear that it's over so there's no point keeping in touch? Well, respect your ex's wishes, but if you really want get your ex back, call him/her after a month and leave a message.
If you want to get your ex back into your life, reach out to him/her when you think he/she is away from home. That way you can leave a message on the phone without having to listen to his/her voice. Keep your message short, unemotional and intriguing!
But don't call your ex before a month, because it's best to give him/her space. When a relationship gets over there are so many emotions to deal with, irrespective of who did the breaking up or whether it was mutual. Time away from each other allows both parties to cope better, heal a little and decide what to do next. So, if you initiate contact after a month's gap, you'll be more composed over the phone and clearer about what you want.
Take this month to sift through your emotions, analyze what went wrong, were you in any responsible for it? This is also a good time to put away any belongings of your ex, if there are any. Or stash away things or gifts that remind you of him/her. Do things that make you feel more positive and more in control of the situation. And then once a month goes by, pick up the phone and call your ex...
Time your call so that your ex won't be around and leave a message that'll make him/her eager to call you back! You might like to jot down what you'd like to say if that helps and keeps you from fumbling. Be cool. Sound happy. Even sound excited about 'something new' in your life, even if the only thing new is this morning's newspaper! Remember, this is you throwing the bait and your ex has got to bite!
That's the kind of message you want to leave - something that will keep him/her wondering, something that won't let him/her sit in peace without knowing what's going on in your life. The message should make it difficult for your ex to resist calling you back. So, take your time and think about what you want to say and how you're going to say it.
If you're clueless and don't know what to say, use this message: "Hi! I guess you probably don't want to talk to me right now, but I wanted to say I'm sorry. I feel terrible about the things I've said and done. And I'm really sorry about everything. And you what? I think you were right that we should break up. It was time to move on. I didn't really understand this then, but I do now. I'll always cherish the moments we had together. By the way, there's so much to tell you! Wish we could meet and talk. Anyway, you take care. Bye!"
Now that you've laid the bait, sit back and wait. It's just a matter of time before you get a return call from your ex! Your message will make his/her mind go into overdrive. He/she'll keep wondering what's going on with you? Are you into someone else? Does that mean you're over the relationship? So quickly?!
Through this message you've reached out and admitted your mistakes and your ex should appreciate that. It has also deflected attention from the problems you had and laid the ground for a future relationship/friendship.
Sure, it is a calculated move, but that's what you've got to do if you want to get your ex back! It's a studied decision with deliberate action so you don't end up saying things you'll regret later. Once you get a return call from your ex, it's time to take the second step... More on that some other time! All the best for now!