Getting Over The Thorny Wall Of Lets Just Be Friends
The most excruciatingly painful line you could ever receive was just delivered to you from the sweet lips of your girlfriend
. lets just be friends That phrase is a blow that knocks the breath from your lungs. It might seem like a wall covered with thorns that you need to get over in order to change her mind about being only friends.
Youre probably wondering what possessed your girlfriend to decide friendship was the better course. The answer is confusion. Sometimes human beings are afraid when a relationship is getting too serious; they try to close off those emotions unconsciously. It will make her question why shes staying with you especially if she doesnt have those feelings anymore. She doesnt realize that she still cares about you because shes hiding them behind the thorny wall.
The obvious reason let's just be friends is she knows deep down that she still cares about you. As confused as you are, shes likely to be even more confused. Shes questioning her feelings because shes insecure at the moment.
Shes hiding her feelings from herself even if she cant really hide them from you. You can tell by the way she is acting towards you that she still cares.
This is why actions are more powerful than words. She may be saying she wants to be lets just be friends but shes acting like she still loves you with the same conviction she did before.
Your job, then, is to show her how she feels again. You need to have a plan that wont scare her away and you need to have some patience and understanding in order to help her see where her feelings really lie.