Getting Your Ex Back - What Not To Do
After a break up, getting your ex back may be the first thing you think about in the morning and the last thing at night
. It's possible that you obsess about it every minute in between as well. If this sounds familiar, chances are, no matter what you are doing to get them back, it's the wrong thing. When we are in the midst of a personal crisis, most of what we do or say is dictated by the emotion of the moment. This is rarely the right thing to do and causes more harm than good.One of the most important things to do when trying to repair your lost relationship is to look at the situation with a new perspective. If you are depressed and are talking about it to whoever will listen, including your ex, stop. Stop it right now! Pity will only get you so far, and then you have to get back to reality. It is better to take that leap now and start doing something constructive. Don't be clingy. Telling your ex how much you love and miss them will be smothering. They will run in the opposite direction. The same goes for buying gifts.
Many people buy gifts for their former boyfriend/girlfriend to entice them to come back. If you didn't buy them when you were together, don't do it now. It will make them uneasy around you, or make them decide to stay away altogether. The goal is to be yourself. When focusing on getting your relationship back, well-meaning friends often give the worst advice with the best intentions. The plan to make your former loved one jealous by pretending you have moved on with someone else may drive a permanent wedge between the two of you. If using guilt or manipulation is on your to do list, cross it off.
The situation will only end badly and totally defeat the purpose of reparing your relationship. It will change the way they see you, and it will not be positive. Speaking of change. Don't tell your ex that you will change if they come back. They have probably heard that before and it didn't work then either. If you are going to change your behavior and learn new habits, it is better to do that now. A positive outlook will help. Now you will be able to show your ex that you have changed, instead of talking about it.
you see, I'm just a regular guy that has suffered the heartache of breaking up with my own girlfriend, Cindy. After trying endless times, I finally found something that worked and now we are back together again.
Are you ready to get started? Now is the best time to take action and get started today!
by: Troy Truman