Givers And Takers Will Handle The Same Emotional Problem Differently

Whether depression, anxiety, anger, or other psychological problems

, Takers (Type-T) and Givers (Type-G) handle these differently. The concept of labeling people as a giver of a taker is not new, though the clinical biopsychological approach uses the terms in a distinct fashion. It is based on the theory that every person has two distinct minds, the right and the left sides of the brain.

The verbal thinking (talking to ourselves) is controlled by the left side, while emotions we experience in relationships is controlled by the right. In relationships, the memories on the right side determine what feels positive and what feels negative. Takers have positive feelings when taking from others, while givers have positive feelings when giving to others.

Givers do not want to be seen as a bad person. They do not feel comfortable being the center of attention. On the other hand, takers want to get all possible power, control, attention, and/or things. They enjoy being the center of attention. These basic differences account for differences in how each deals with various psychological issues.

When experiencing an emotional problem, takers are those most likely to seek help from others. In this case, the problem leads to their gaining attention (and possibly control) from those around them. They often play out the role of the victim or martyr. These are the patients who often fail to get better in treatment. Why? Getting better may result in their being able to control others less. If they are not seen as needing help, they may not be able to get as much time and attention from others.

When givers have an emotional problem, they usually feel they should be able to deal with it with no assistance. They do not want to be seen by others as weak or needy, resulting in their keeping problems secret. If they do seek treatment, they are the ones most likely to benefit since they desire to get back to being self-sufficient.

Please do not take that I am saying that takers do not usually have a genuine emotional problem. I am only stating that each type handles those problems differently and one type is more likely than the other to benefit from psychotherapy, as well as self-help books.

by: Richard Rice

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