How To Deal With Anger After A Breakup
Anger is a key part to working through a breakup
. What it all boils down to is learning how to handle your anger and how to work through it. The best advice for the broken hearted when dealing with anger after a breakup is to get a handle on your anger and to learn how to control it. You do not want to allow the hate and anger you have for the other person to end up running your life. We must learn to move on.To begin, let's do some visualization. See yourself doing exactly what you want to do to your ex. If you want to cuss them up and down, insult them in public or just call them names, visualize yourself doing these things. Having as much detail as you can in this exercise will help you in visualizing yourself doing these things. Your brain will be 'tricked' into thinking that what you were visualizing actually happened and thus relieve you of that anger. The brain will not know the difference between you visualizing yourself doing these things and you actually doing them, as the more detail you add the more you can fool the brain that it really happened.
Taking some time and writing out everything that you would like to say or do to the other person will help you get over the breakup as well, but there is one trick that I want to share about this. Be as detailed as you can when you are writing out everything that you are feeling. Write out what you would like to say, how that would make you feel as well as why you would want to say those things. Do not hold back and be sure to get everything out. You have plenty of paper so leave no stone unturned. Once you have everything written down and you start to feel better about getting everything out, burn all the pages you have written. All of your feelings are in that document and you already feel better since getting your feeling out, so there is no need to hold onto this for any reason as you are already done with this person. Shred or burn the piece of paper to put a finishing touch to the relationship, but know that getting your feelings out is what will really help you the most.
You can also take a step up in physical intensity and use your voice to let out all of your anger and frustration. You will want to be a bit careful when doing this as you do not want to cause any damage to your throat or your voice at all. Find a spot where there really aren't many people to hear you. You can drive your car or even walk to a secret place. Once you are there, just let it all out and scream until you begin to feel better. You can put into words things that you would like the other person to hear, or you can just scream and not worry about thinking at all. Just be sure to take breaks and to not strain too much. We still want to have a voice when we are done.
Escalating on the physical scale, we can also take your mind off of the breakup by playing sports. Sports can be fun and social at the same time. Team sports allow you to get your blood pumping and compete while also allowing you to interact socially with other people. You will have something to focus on when you get your cardiovascular system pumping as you will take your mind off the breakup. This exercise is not only for team sports. You can do things by yourself like throwing balls against a wall, jogging or even running. The point to remember about this is to make sure that you are exerting yourself physically. That is what will take your mind off of the breakup and it will help you to stay fit in the process.
This last exercise I would like to mention about ways to remove anger after a breakup is more violent, but it will take your mind off of the breakup as well making you feel great. You want to find an area where other people cannot be harmed and where you are safe as well. You will want to find things around you on the ground or even bring things that you can break. Be sure not to break things that are important to anyone else and especially things that you care about. You can hit a punching bag, break sticks across other trees, get some meat and tenderize it with a mallet, or even put some ice into a bag and then crush the ice with a mallet. All of these things will get your blood pumping as they are physical in nature, but will also take your mind off of the other person.
by: Stuart Reed