How to get back with an ex requires a deep understanding of why the relationship fell apart in the first place. Sometimes couples can just drift apart without really having any major problems. If this is what happened to you, think about what attracted them to you in the first place. How can you rekindle the magic feelings you had.
Often when you are single and without responsibility you can be fun and looking for excitement but the reality is once you are in a relationship it is easy to start taking the other person for granted and slipping into a boring routine.
Studies have proved that everyone has a need to be appreciated for what they do, and they want the other person to make them feel better about themselves.
The one step you need to do, is let your ex know you are interested in getting back together. If you have been apart for a while just suggesting small steps like meeting up for a coffee or drink is a good starting point. If you are friendly but not needy or desperate the chances are they will be happy to catch up.
At your first meeting keep it all low key. You will be able to tell from their body language if it is the right time to talk about getting back.
To get back together you want to make it clear to your ex that your relationship with them is extremely important and you are going to do what it takes to make it work.
Did you often talk about going somewhere special, but it always got put off. Suggest taking that trip together now and show them how committed you are to do something special together. It does not have to be an expensive trip; it could be just enjoying the local museum. The special part is doing something you enjoy together.
You have the advantage of knowing your ex and what they enjoy.
Going back to dating first to see how things work out, is a non-threatening beginning.