How To Handle Approach Anxiety - You Must Be Able To Get Over It!
You are standing with a buddy of yours in darkly lit club
, and as the lights fade in and out... you see her. She's tan, tall and slender, and has that air about her that lets you know she knows how to have a good time. You begin to think about making your move... about going over to talk to her. You nudge your friend with your elbow and give him the nod to check her out.
He takes a look and nods his head in agreement, letting you know that he also thinks she is hot. You begin to feel that flash of anxiety kick in as you think about approaching her. You feel almost paralyzed as you keep your eyes locked on her. You can see that she is still alone, and it's now or never to make your move.
You look back at your friend, wanting to get a nod of encouragement, but he's not there. You turn your he and you see that HE is walking over to HER.
Now, all you can do is sit back and watch from a distance as he talks to her. She's laughing at his jokes and you can't help but to think that it should be YOU that she is laughing with.
If only. If only you could be more like your friend.
He never has a problem approaching women. Right now, you could kick yourself for pointing her out to him. It's not that you don't want to see your friend get a girl, it's that it should be you with this one. This one was the one you were waiting all night for.
Something held you back and it always does.
Approach anxiety.
We all get it. Even your friend that snaked you out and went and approached that girl you had your eye on. The thing is... some guys learn how to handle it so that it does not hold them back.
They don't let the fear of approaching a woman keep them from making their move.
You wish you could be THAT guy.
You know, you are not that guy, though.
You are the guy who succumbs to his anxiety around women. You are the guy who wishes that he could approach the most gorgeous woman in a club and just start conversation with her like you were talking to your friend.
Remember your friend?
The one who did not let anything hold him back, and now he is talking to your girl?
Well, now he is doing more than that.
He's got his hand on her waist and they are dancing to the music.
You're still on the sidelines.
Approach anxiety got to you again and now it is rubbing it in your face like salt to a wound.
If there is ONE THING that most shy guys need to get over, it's approach anxiety.
How can you handle it?
How can you get over approach anxiety so that it can be YOU who makes the approach?
There are a couple of things that you need to do.
1) To get over approach anxiety, you have to admit that it is there.
Guys don't like to admit to having anything with the word anxiety in it. They don't want to feel like less of a man. Thing is, you can't handle a problem until you finally admit that it exists. So, this is the FIRST MOVE that you need to make.
2) The second thing that you need to do is confront it.
Anxiety is a funny thing. It usually does not go away completely. There's usually still a little bit of it there. You have to be able to find a way to get around it and confront it. If you see a woman and you really want to approach her, do it. No matter how weird it feels.
The cool thing about approach anxiety is that it does not have to hold you back, the more experience that you have in actually stepping to women you don't know... the less it feels weird to you.
The less anxious you will be about it.
You have to be able to get over it though, or else there will ALWAYS be a situation where it prevents you from approaching the woman who just might be your dream girl.
There will always be some guy who CAN make the approach.
Why not allow yourself to be THAT guy?
by: Chris Tyler
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