Marriage is generally the biggest commitment that we ever take on in our lives and sometimes we do get it wrong and make mistakes
. We are not taught how to be happily married at school and right from day 1 of saying "I do" it is a huge learning curve for all of us. So if your marriage is going awry and you are asking the question "how to save my marriage from divorce" then you are not alone.
Far too many people throw in the towel even before it gets to this stage. So congratulate yourself for wanting to fix the situation. There are ways that you can work on your marriage issues that will make it even stronger than before, but you will have to change the way that you act and think.
In order to do this you need to clear your mind of any negative thoughts towards your partner. Start thinking about what first attracted you to them and indeed what qualities they have bought to your marriage. Once you can do this, then any decisions you make can be made in a positive rational way. Once your partner sees that you are acting in a calm and rational way, this will have a positive response from your partner.
By thinking with your head and not your heart, you will be able to communicate better with your partner. Do so in a non threatening way, and listen to what they have to say. Be receptive to their feelings and desires and take on board what they are telling you. Finally go away and act upon them. By doing this your spouse will see that you respect their wishes and that you are really making an effort to save your marriage. This will in turn have an impact on them and might spur them into doing the same.
By staying calm and collected your marriage stands a much greater chance of survival. A great analogy is to act like a swan. On top of the water it is smooth and graceful, whereas below the water it is paddling like crazy to keep afloat! You must do the same. However crazy it gets, you need to appear to be calm and in control
These are actions that you can apply now to start to steer your marriage back in the right direction. However, there is much more information that you need to know, as this is just the tip of the iceberg.