You find yourself faced with a divorce, being single and not even wanting to start thinking about dating. It's okay to be single. Starting over as a singles person can be a reality shocker but its not the end of life as we know it.
Take this time to refresh and regroup before seeking another serious relationship. Many new singles feel they are not important or they are a nobody if they aren't attached to someone. This couldn't be further from the truth. Jumping into the dating game again too soon is the first big mistake many dating singles make.
Use the time to first heal and reflect on what happen to bring you to this point in your life. What did you learn from this experience? What are you going to avoid in future dating relationships, and what are you going to do different? Forgiveness is good for the soul and you will need to forgive yourself as well.
No one can undo the past. Dwelling on the things that you cannot undo will prevent from moving forward unto a different level in your life. Don't make the mistake by continuing to play the blame game or digging up old dirt. This is not healthy and when time comes to being in a new relationship it could ruin your chances.
If you don't learn from your past mistakes, they will continue to be repeated and the cycle never goes away. Getting past the pain, the hurt and the guilt will be a must for you to be successful in any new relationship you may have. Others have a lot of baggage to carry as well and to continue to lug it around will do nothing but literally weigh you both down.
When your time comes to approach the dating scene again, you may be interested in professional matchmaking websites instead of the online dating websites. The difference in the two is quiet unique. Online dating websites give you pages of people you may want to contact. Professional matchmaking is entirely different because they chose for you the one with the same interest you have and the same type of goals. This is something that has become very popular over the last few years in the states. But actually is has been around for centuries in other cultures.
Taking your time to heal and finding yourself again will allow you to start again on a fresh page in your life.