Divorce is a very emotional subject. It can be very painful. You must be mature and not lose your temper. Rationally discuss which direction the marriage is going from here. Above all else, this is no time for an argument. Cooler heads must prevail! The two of you must work hard to iron out your differences. Don't be affraid to get professional help if you think you should.
Relationship counseling is usually the last resort for couples staring at a divorce. Counseling is not something that couples should be affraid of. Couples that have been married for some time are not as eager to try counseling as younger couples. Younger couples are more willing to try new things. That makes couples counseling an excellent option.
If you feel that you need relationship counseling, don't be affraid to suggest it to your spouse. But be sure to let your spouse know that you're not placing blame on them. Ask them to support you and tell them that the counseling is for you. If your spouse thinks that you are accusing them of being the problem, they're not likely to go along with the idea of counseling. Ask your spouse to go to counseling with you because you have some problems to iron out. Tell them that you want to work on being a better spouse.
Don't tell your spouse that you think they need counseling, even if you do. Once the two of you get involved in relationship counseling, he or she will learn how to make the marriage better along with you. If your spouse refuses to go with you to counseling, then go yourself. While relationship counseling is meant for couples, you can still go to counseling to improve yourself. Once your spouse sees that you are trying to improve yourself and your marriage, he or she will likely give it a try too.