How to Cope After the Affair – Rebuilding Your Marriage After Cheating
How do you cope after the affair? It's so hard just to get through the day sometimes knowing that you've been cheated on
. How do you move forward so that you can really get busy rebuilding your marriage after cheating has rattled your marriage to its foundation?
You cope with a cheating spouse just as you cope with anything bad that happens in your life. You force yourself to keep putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward until you realize that you no longer need to force yourself and are able to walk on your own. That's the long road to healing at least but it can be effective.
Stop Worrying About what Could Have Been
There are other things you can do to help you cope after you've been cheated on. The very first thing you need to do is stop blaming yourself. Could things have been different? Maybe, the problem is there is no way to know for sure. Could you have prevented your spouse from cheating? It's another maybe.
The bottom line is that hindsight almost always reveals things that might have, would have, or could have been done differently along the way. You'll never know and kicking yourself while you're down simply isn't helpful to your cause. So stop!
What you need to do now is to stop worrying about changing your past and focus on things you can do to change the future. You can build the future you want. What you need to do now is sit down and figure out how to make it happen.
Change Your Stars
You don't need to go to a fortune teller and read star charts to determine your future. Now is the time for you to make decisions, make plans, and take action.
If you focus on the future and rebuilding your marriage by this I mean going back and starting over new and rebuilding it from the ground up you can leave old baggage behind, create new and happy memories, and correct mistakes that may have been made the first time around.
The future is always in motion. Your actions now define what your future will be. If you've decided that rebuilding your marriage is the way to go then the act of rebuilding will be part of your coping process to help you cope after the affair. If you work together you both have the power to change your future and create your own happy ending.
How to Cope After the Affair Rebuilding Your Marriage After Cheating