I Do Not Have Time For Relationship Or Dating.

When I talk to singles these days, I hear a lot of them giving me the same excuse

over and over again: "I don't have time for relationship or dating." That's right, you heard me, it is an excuse. It is based on a lie that you have chosen to believe for some reason. It is easy to say because it keeps you protected from the pain and discomfort of going out on dates, having to set your boundaries or feeling the disappointment of rejection. It is so easy to just set this one big boundary by saying "I don't have time" or "I don't have the money" or "This is too much, too hard and not worth it." When I hear people say it I can feel the energy of them shutting down as they speak to me. Honestly, it's not up to me to tell you what's right for you. But I do want to ask you to think about it. Are you really happy by yourself? Do you have everything you need? And if the answer is "Yes," then good for you.

But what if you are lying to yourself and hiding in your isolation? How is serving you? Don't you feel lonely sometimes and wish you could share your life with the right person, someone you love? Ask yourself this question, do you really want to be in a committed relationship? It's OK if you don't, but it is important to be honest with yourself. Because if you are hesitant and not sure what you want, there is no way you can be happy with what life is bringing you now. Maybe you are having some limiting beliefs that you are so set in your ways that you will not be able to live or even get along with another person. Maybe you are limiting yourself thinking that no one will want to be with you. All those things are not true. It doesn't matter what you look like, what kind of disease you have, how old you are or how many kids you have. There is always someone out there for you, the right person who will love you and treasure every moment of being with you.

It is important to note that I am not talking about just any relationship. Chances are, if you feel like you don't want to be in a relationship or if you feel resistant and give yourself excuses like not having enough time, you're probably not picturing yourself in your ideal relationship. I can almost guarantee that the word ideal is not even entering your mind. You are probably thinking it will be the same type of relationship you've had in your past that wasn't working for you. Or perhaps if you had a great relationship in the past that ended, you are telling yourself that there is no way you can have something even close to that again. All I can say is that your thoughts will create your reality and what you're imagining or telling yourself is exactly what you will attract. The laws of attraction work in the relationship and dating area with higher intensity and quicker outcome than any other area of your life.

I would like to invite you to imagine being with your ideal partner. Someone you consider your soul mate. You enjoy spending time together, you love each others company, the chemistry between you two is amazing, you can really talk about anything and it generally feels right being with this person. I know it's hard to imagine something like this if it's not what you have right now. But let's say you can imagine it. Now I would like to ask you again, do you really have time for this kind of relationship you just imagined? And if you say no, then what are you really devoting most of your time to?

Copyright (c) 2010 Katherine Bouglai

by: Katherine Bouglai

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