Is Cheating Happening In Your Relationship Due To Boredom? - 3 Surefire Approaches To Fix It

Unfaithfulness in an intimate relationship can happen for any number of reasons

. One commonly perceived cause is boredom. But this does not have to be - if only we would just take off the masks we put on in our relationship.

Unfaithfulness is Definitely Not The Solution To Boredom

We get bored in our relationship primarily because we do not get authentic with each other - we have a tendency to pretend too much. This results in shallow interactions because what is not authentic cannot go very deep. Then unfaithfulness would seem like a plausible way to escape the boredom. Of course the cheating itself will sooner or later get boring, then we realize that the real predicament is not actually boredom but it is a symptom of something else such as maybe we just do not take the time to get to know each other.

We associate to each other behind masks, afraid to expose or even discover who we really are merely because we have been brainwashed into believing that we need to appear a certain way to each other to be acceptable. No wonder we get bored, everything under this mindset becomes predictable. We are not authentic, we are not truly who we think we are, we know something is missing but we just cannot say what. Acting out our lives this way with each other results in being predictable and predictability is tedious.

3 Surefire Ways To Get Rid of Boredom From Your Relationship

Here is an idea - why not get real with each other and generate some excitement! Here are a few ways to do it.

* Stop taking yourself so seriously in your relationship. Learn to laugh at yourself, to talk to your other half about your screw-ups without concern that you are being judged or defined by them. Laugh at them together. Have a blast at their expense.

* Learn to separate your feelings and actions from who you really are. Just imagine if every emotion you felt was an accurate depiction of who you are; or every act you took wholly represented you. You are not all your actions nor are you all your feelings. Look at yourself as different from them and it will be easier to be open in discussing them with your spouse. Free yourself so you are available to get pleasure from the relationship.

* Practice examining what are driving the emotions behind your actions - past experiences, memories, learned principles. And then move on! This will prevent you from getting so caught up with yourself and free you to share more openly.

Add Spontaneity and Excitement By Getting Real

The complete objective of the above is to make you more secure in getting to recognize who you actually are so this posture can be projected in your intimate relationship. If your spouse do the same then the end-result can only be more honesty, more authenticity, less boredom.

And here is what you will find out from day to day as you adopt this new attitude of de-masking yourself - truth as in getting real about who you both are is in no way boring, it is spontaneous since you are not trying to fit into a well-known or predictable behavioral script, it is exhilarating because you will discover new exciting stuff about yourself and each other on a regular basis.

So take off the masks and watch boredom disappear. And if you ever even harbored the notion of unfaithfulness because you felt bored with your spouse then now you know where the real resolution lies - not in cheating but in getting genuine.

Take off the masks!

Is Cheating Happening In Your Relationship Due To Boredom? - 3 Surefire Approaches To Fix It

By: G. W. Smikle

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