Is He Cheating On Me?
Author: Matt and Tamsen
Author: Matt and Tamsen
2010 is here. Make sure you don't start the New Year on the wrong note with the wrong guy. From Tiger Woods to Elliot Spitzer, there is something to learn from every situation. Here's the bottom line: if you have to worry about a guy cheating on you when you're not around, it's time to start looking for another man. Excessive jealousy can poison even the best relationships, so if you're with someone who doesn't make you feel secure enough to trust him, move on.
But how do you separate suspicions that come from your own insecurities from hints that he may actually be cheating on you? There's no way to know for sure unless you catch him, but these signs are a pretty good indicator that you have a cheater on your hands:
1. You have a gut feeling. Sure, feelings can be wrong, but it's usually better to trust your intuition. Even if he's not cheating on you, your gut suspicions could be a sign that you are just not ready to be in a relationship with this guy.
2. It's Christmas in July. If he's buying you lots of gifts "just because," he could be trying to get rid of his guilt with material possessions. If it's not your birthday, a holiday, or he claims he got a "bonus" that you never knew he was up for, he might be cheating on you.
3. He's oversensitive. There are certain things he's always been touchy about, but if he's picking fights and constantly threatening to end the relationship over minor issues, there may be something else on his mind.
4. His tastes change. Maybe he was a huge Beatles fan when you met him, but these days he can't stop listening to Kanye West. Or maybe he's hated artichokes for the past five years, but suddenly he can't get enough of those spiky rounds of goodness. If his tastes suddenly change without any obvious trigger, he could be trying to emulate the interests of his new flame.
5. He acts guilty when you do something nice. There's a difference between "You didn't need to do that!" and "I don't deserve all the nice things you do for me." If you think that your guy is cheating on you, don't take a wait-and-see approach; document hard evidence like strange credit card charges or inappropriate computer activity and confront him. If you don't have access to those records, explain your feelings to him anyway, but realize that he may not think he is "caught" and try to lie his way through the situation. You may want to consider hiring a private investigator, or seeking counseling to help you deal with the situation.About the Author:
Want to know what he's really thinking? Trying to figure out if she is truly the girl for you? Look no further. if you have questions about dating, love, sex, relationships or lifestyle, Ask Matt & Tamsen is the place you can ask away. Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal are a real couple offering real relationship advice. This one-of-a-kind husband and wife duo have appeared everywhere from Martha Stewart to Tyra Banks to countless national and syndicated talk shows including E!, Style Network, the CBS Early Show, MSNBC, ABC News, The Mike and Juliet Show and Montel Williams.
Matt writes features on dating and relationships for Cosmopolitan magazine. This dynamic team are the authors of the top selling books, Why Hasnt He Called? How Men Really Think and How To Get The Right One Interested In You and Why Hasnt He Proposed?, Go From The First Date To Setting The Date, which are both widely considered todays modern dating and relationship bibles.
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