Is Your Marriage on the Brink of Divorce? Learn 4 Tips that Can Help Save Your Marriage

Is Your Marriage on the Brink of Divorce? Learn 4 Tips that Can Help Save Your Marriage

Consider this. Your house is falling apart, the roof is caving in, the plumbing is a disaster, and the electrical system is faulty. You must make a decision. Do you tear down the house or repair it?

Before making the decision to repair a broken-down house, you must first determine the cost in terms of time, money, and effort that will be required to get the job done. You might begin to wonder just how much does this house mean to you. How far are you willing to go to accomplish your goal? Will the end result be worth expending the time, money, and effort that is certain to be involved in such a major project?

A broken-down house might be compared to a broken-down marriage. Perhaps your marriage is in a similar situation and seems to be falling apart. You might feel that you are just going through the motions in the marriage. The joy that you once felt just isn't there anymore. You have reached the point where you feel you must make a tough decision; end the marriage or repair it. After much thought on the matter, perhaps you have decided that you don't want to end the marriage, but you don't know where to begin to fix it.

The good news is that you can save your marriage, if you are willing to work at it. So, how do you go about saving your marriage?

There are a number of things that you can try initially to begin to rebuild your marriage. Once you have accomplished the initial steps, you can continue to build on those things. For any of it to work, you must take those first steps.

Try the following suggestions:

Make a resolve to work with your mate to bring peace back into your marriage. Sometimes it helps to put your thoughts in writing. When you and your spouse are dedicated to solving your problems, you'll find that saving your marriage becomes a team effort.

Identify the trouble. Briefly write out what you wish you could change about your marriage. Of course, your view of what is lacking or needing change might not be the same as your spouse's view.

Devise a plan. Decide what you want and expect of your marriage. Discuss together where you would like your marriage to be in a certain amount of time. Discuss specific improvements that you would like to accomplish. Again, write down your ideas and goals. When you have a definite plan, you will be much more able to attain your goals.

Finally, and most importantly, apply Scriptural counsel. When you figure out what the problem is with your marriage and have decided what changes you would like to make, look to the Bible for advice. The Bible's principles are never outdated, and they really work. (Isaiah 48:17; 2 Timothy 3:17) For example, the Bible encourages married couples to be forgiving. Proverbs 19:11, and Ephesians 4:32 says, in part, "it is beauty . . . to pass over transgression."

Don't give up if your efforts seem futile at first. The book The Case for Marriage reports the encouraging results of one study, stating: "The truth is shocking: 86 percent of unhappily married people who stick it out find that, five years later, their marriages are happier." Even couples who described themselves as very unhappy experienced a turnaround. Perhaps the same can be true for you.

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