An Ex Parte Restraining Order can be issued anytime there is a sexual discrimination or domestic violence accusation, whether it is true or not
. And often a vindictive mother will try to get the father to "break" the restraining order, thereby getting the father into serious trouble. No matter what, you must never do this and never let her play the emotion card with you.
One of the ways she may do this is by getting in contact with you and telling you the kids need something. It may be an item of clothing you have or she may simply tell you she has changed her mind and it is okay for you to see the kids. No matter what the reason, do not break the restraining order. You can find yourself in jail and in serious trouble as stated before.
Well-meaning mothers are often talked into getting a restraining order and then may truly regret it. What you, and she, both need to realize is that even if she changes her mind, it may not matter. If you have been charged with domestic violence, the district attorney's office can jump on the band wagon and enforce the restraining order against you no matter what the mom says.
Don't let emotional stress dictate your actions. Stay calm and level headed and know your rights know what you can and cannot do. Document everything including the time and date of every contact with the mom, kids or other family members. You will be glad you did at the end of the battle.