Reducing Perfectionism To Reduce Stress
Are you a perfectionist? Do you try to get everything in your life perfectly right
? If so, you're not alone. Perfectionism on its own isn't a bad thing. It can drive you to achieve more and get closer to your goals.
However, when perfectionism is turned into a weapon to hurt yourself with, it quickly becomes stressful and counter productive.
If you use perfectionism to beat yourself up for not being good enough, not only will you build stress, but you'll also reduce rather than increase your ability to perform.
How can you tone down the level of perfectionism in your life without compromising your drive?
==> Ask Yourself: How Good Does This Really Need to Be?
Instead of trying to get things to be perfect, it often makes more sense to just try and make things "better."
For example, if you wanted to work out 5 days a week but you're currently not working out any at all, it might make sense to try to workout just one day a week instead of 5.
If you try to shoot for 5 right out the gate and fall short by even just one day, it can be very easy to beat yourself up for "failing."
However, if you shoot for "better" rather than "perfect" and start out with just one day a week, it becomes very easy to surpass your own expectations.
Start by aiming to make your life, your projects and your goals better rather than perfect.
==> Rank Your Projects and Goals According on the Perfect Scale
Another powerful way to tone down perfectionism is to consciously write out all your goals and projects and ask yourself: On a scale of one to five, how important is it that this project is done perfectly?
The goal here is to change your default mode from being perfectionist about everything to only being perfectionist when it really matters.
You might find that when you think about it, what really matters is getting certain projects at work perfect. For your diet or your personal savings, you might find that getting things on a "3" or "good enough" is just fine.
==> Get Other People's Feedback
If everyone around you is also trying to strive for perfection and they're able to achieve it in a healthy way, then it might make sense to strive for that goal as well.
On the other hand, if the people around you who you trust tell you that you might be pushing too hard, then you might want to seriously look at whether your goals are realistic or self-harming.
For example, if you decide to go to the gym and work out 4 days a week and find others who do the same, you're probably on course. On the other hand, if you go to a rock climbing gym and try to train to climb the most difficult wall within two weeks - You may very well be setting unrealistic goals.
Perfectionism can be extremely powerful when used in its proper place. Use the techniques described above to determine whether or not your perfectionism is realistic. If so, keep it in place to drive yourself forward. If not, use one of the techniques above to tone it down.
by: Angel Noyal
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