Relationship Advice: How Break-ups And Guilt Affects An Individual
How lots of break-ups also lead to feelings of guilt amongst partners
? Take care of guilt before you break-up. Guilt can be a very damaging feeling and can make any life hell. Those who are filled with guilt undergo lot of pain asking for forgiveness in all places, but fail to forgive themselves.
Why guilt? Guilt comes in case you have done any wrong that has not been corrected. In case you have done wrongs along with your partner and refuse to acknowledge them before break-up, that will be very painful afterwards. Let me tell you something. Most of us never think that they have done any wrong. As time passes they recognize our wrongs and by that time all is lost. The feelings of guilt therefore take over after that and make life impossible.
Treatment - In case you have decided to break-up, go ahead. Do what I recommend before you break up. Ask your partner about what all he/she feels what done wrongly by you. Ask them to tell you about everything, not missing even the smallest detail.
Do not get yourself emotional. As much as possible, just entertain positive feelings and you will soon get to moving on. Refrain yourself from going to places that will remain you of your past relationship. Also throw away things that can remind you of your partner. Anything that contributes negative emotions as well as past memories should be avoided.
Be able to release all your feelings. Shout and cry as long as you want. Do not ever store all those negativity inside of you. Try to talk with friends if you can. This way, you are able to lighten your load inside and in time you will soon get over those negative feelings.
Without any arguments, say sorry for all that. Do not argue. I do know that you would not agree with most of the accusations and get annoyed and protest furiously. But refrain doing that. Say sorry, and apologize profusely and after that try to forget everything. Forgive yourself and continue along with your life. This way you will be saving yourself from tremendous amount of guilt that may come afterwards. Act in time before breaking up.
Remember that there are still other people who love you so much. Try to hang out with these people. You will also get the chance to talk to them about what you feel and what you are trying to achieve and overcome. Hanging out with friends and relatives may also bring about new friends. Just try to relax yourself with your loved ones.