Relationship Counseling - Dating Red Flags For Single Women
For single women, there are many different things to look for in the men they date
. A man's desire to impress a woman can cloud her ability to see his behaviour in the proper light. Assuming it's a long term relationship she desires, she needs courage to call poor behaviour for what it really is. The process of dating with the intention of finding a compatible marriage partner is not for the faint of heart.
A man's full attention is what a woman in love wants. Yet, a lack of participation by their husband, is one of the most common complaints married women have. Making an intelligent decision about whether to continue the relationship or not, based on the man's level of participation, is vital for a single woman.
This relationship red flag of non-participation is rarely if ever seen early in the dating process. Many of us men believe our main goal in the dating process is to... get the girl! There comes a time in a man's mind, not all of course, but many, where he believes he has reached his goal and he stops trying. Unlike the way he did in the past, he stops trying to please her in special ways or woo her romantically. He moves onto other goals in other areas of his life because he has accomplished his goal of getting her.
His unconcious act of abandoning her leaves her living in isolation from him. This trap of neglect is one that many unsuspecting husbands fall into. As men growing up very few of us had any discussions about being a husband or a father. As a result, especially younger men, are ignorant about the amount of work that is required to build a relationship with a woman and create a happy home.
This trait can become more apparent, if it actually exist all, through the passage of time. It often takes time for this sort of trait to become highly visible. I recommend dating for one full year before committing to marriage, even though that may seem like an eternity to many. I know...it may seem like a very long time, yet for these sort of poor habits to come to the surface, it takes time.
Another relationship red flag for single women is a man without a clear direction, a clear sense of where he's going with this life. It would be crazy to suggest that one should try and have it all figured out. Life is full of all kinds of trial and error. What I'm talking about relates to passion and drive. The kind of passion and drive that causes a man who isn't sure about where he's going with his life, to find out. To find his direction in life he must dig, search and do whatever it takes.
The ideal situation is for a man to have a clear and distinct direction for his life and to find a woman who shares his passion. The reason this is so important is that as men we define ourselves more by our work then by almost any other activity we engage in. Of course, as discussed in the previous point, a man can become so obsessed with his work that he ends up neglecting his wife and family, that's not what I'm talking about.
As men, how we contribute is very important as we are action oriented. Our work and careers are essential to how we view our contribution. As men we define ourselves more by our work then by almost any other activity we engage in.
If you're dating a man who lacks a clear direction or purpose, and displays only a slight desire to find one...beware! I cannot overstate this point. Directionless men are much more likely to be destructive men. It's no accident that crime rates and unemployment rates for young men tend to mirror each other. A man that you date may not resort to crime, but without a clear sense of direction and purpose his destructive behaviours may include regular bursts of anger, drug and alcohol addiction, and/or sex addictions.
by: Chris Keenan
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