Saving Your Marriage - A Worthy Undertaken

Everyone who is aware of day to day happenings conscious of the fact that cases of marriage breakup has been on the increase

. Many varying opinions have been proposed about the reason for this development. One thing I never cease to make people realize is that your marriage does not have to follow that record. You can make yours an exception.

If we look around us, we would find marriages that have remained for so many years. Do you realize that these marriages had their time of challenges? None of these were exempt from having challenges. It is very possible that some of them faced very major issues. What can we say was their sustaining force? Commitment!

If your marriage is right now headed towards the rocks and you are very afraid, the first thing you need is a commitment to saving your marriage. When you are committed, you can then do all you need to do.

Many marriages are headed towards a total breakdown as a result of an affair. For many married folks, this is the unforgivable sin.

You can truly be guided on how to survive an affair. There are marriages that have actually come out of an episode of this kind stronger. Don't ever forget that it requires work. To actually attempt this, your commitment to saving your marriage mustn't for one moment be in doubt.

We would not be going very in-depth in this writeup. What we would be doing would be asking ourselves a few questions. Answering these questions should make us appreciate the fuller and bigger picture.

The issue of an affair would usually raise two thoughts in the spouse. The first is the hurt and pain that comes with the sense of betrayal. The second thing is a bit of self doubt. This is what results in their seemingly unexplainable eagerness to checkout the individual the affair was with.

This is an attempt at seeing what the other individual has that they don't have. This can cause a drop in self confidence. It is necessary that this self confidence is built back up before making an attempt at resolving the crises.

How do you go about rebuilding your self confidence?

Embarking on this process requires that you first know if you really want to salvage the marriage. You would not make any headway if your mind is not focused on salvaging your marriage.

The second thing is to discover why your spouse had the affair. It is common to discover that affairs are traced to an unmet desire that was then fulfilled elsewhere. It's likely that the affair may have been prevented if you had met certain desires.

Knowing that you have the wherewithal to keep your spouse fully fulfilled can be a confidence booster. Please, I have to say here that no reason makes infidelity right. The purpose of the search is to lead to the healing of your marriage.

At this juncture, you may have found out things you should have handled differently. Do not beat yourself over it. Forgive yourself. It's only possible to forgive your spouse when you have forgiven yourself. After these, the process of rebuilding trust can then begin fully.

Going through this process would surely not be as simple as it is to write it. If you always remind yourself that you can rebuild your marriage, you would find the strength you need. The issue is; are you worried about saving your marriage?

by: Deborah Lindstrom

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