Saving a Marriage - Finding Help in a Gospel Principle
Saving a Marriage - Finding Help in a Gospel Principle
I believe the Bible is undoubtedly one of the greatest marriage books you might pick up. God's plan is for men and women to be as one, to cleave unto one another and to raise children. The natural order of life is for father and mother to rear children in families. It is an element of his design for his children but is there value in such statements if you do not believe in God?
In times of turmoil people frequently call out to God for support often for the first time in a long time! Many people believe in a higher authority or consciousness or creator. These beliefs are valuable in that they give us a motivation to think about saving a marriage instead of leaving it and moving on.
If you have a belief in God or some other force then there comes an understanding that there is a reason to our existence. One that maybe we do not grasp but does exist and so gives us a powerful determination to deal with the challenges and problems we may face in our relationship.
Within this purpose are the trials and difficulties we face and through overcoming them we grow, develop and move toward this final goal. Realizing and understanding that there is a purpose behind the problems we encounter in our marriage gives us motive to pursue the rectification of those issues. When we do not have a belief in an ultimate purpose then the situation can seem useless, saving your marriage becomes a worthless task and leaving the issues behind is an easy way out.
Being with a person you love is a vision we all identify with. When a relationship ends we do not look forward to being single, we look forward to finding the perfect one, our true love, that person we can spend our whole lives with. A husband and wife who have been married for many decades acknowledge that they have had their ups and downs but the profound love they have nurtured by overcoming their trials with each other is something we all wish and reflects a little of our own purpose.
Understanding, trusting or just accepting that there is a meaning in the trials and difficulties we can face in a marriage is incredibly powerful. It allows us to acknowledge that there will be issues, that they are part of the purpose for our life here on earth and saving a marriage is a realization of that purpose.