The Truth About Socialization
The Truth About Socialization
The Truth About Socialization
"Socialization" is probably the most common reason people are opposed to homeschooling. I can honestly tell you that I have never met a homeschooler who has a socialization problem.
The question to ask is, "What is socialization?" Is socialization learning how to relate to others, no matter what your age? If this is the case, then you will certainly find it interesting that in the government school system, children become peer-dependant. This is not a good social skill. What other time in their lives will they be surrounded only by people their same exact age? In the job market? Anywhere? Do they even get to "talk" to the teachers? Aren't they mostly talked "to." In the home, children converse with adults, which is what they will one day become. It makes sense that we would train them to converse with all age groups. This naturally happens in the home.
What is acceptable socialization? Is acting, speaking, dressing, and thinking like everyone else socialization? I personally cannot stand to hear the word "like" repeated a dozen times in one conversationor one sentence! I personally don't want my children doing most of the things that their government school counter-parts do. ("Public" school is when the public gets a say in what is taught, and can be involved in the activities or teaching. We do not have public schools. We have government schools. The government dictates what is taught, how it is taught, who must attend, who is qualified to teach, and what makes them qualified.)
Socialization has nothing to do with a given age-group. Children need good adult models who exemplify the desired values and help them develop those values. The "socialization" that is prevalent in today's schools include ridicule, violence, "me-first" attitudes, and peer pressure to do immoral things like cheat, lie and give up one's purity. No Thanks!!! In a warm environment (the home), true socialization will be 100 % more effective than in a classroom. Young people need significant interaction with supportive adults to become secure adults. They will be adults much longer than they will be children, so it seems to reason that they should learn socialization skills from adults, and not children.
Some people think we are sheltering our children from the evils of the world. You bet we are! God created a garden for Adam and Eve that was without sin. Our children need to learn what "right" and "wrong" are from Godly people, not the world that screams that there is no right or wrong (relativism.) We are responsible for these precious children. God has made it quite clear how He feels about people leading the little ones astray. (Does a "millstone" mean anything to you?) The home is a hedge of protection, designed by God. Children who spend the majority of their time only with their age-mates become peer-dependent. What is good about that? It seems to me that the socialization "skills" that everyone is so afraid homeschoolers are going to "miss out on" are all actually negative. You bet we want to miss out on them!
Children can't guide children. They are still being trained themselves. Children were not meant to evangelize their peers. This is not scriptural. The only commands mentioned specifically in the Bible for children are for them to obey and honor their parents. They don't need to have pressure put on them that God doesn't put on them. Most children are pulled down by their peers. Seldom, if ever, is a child "pulled up." "Bad company corrupts good character." It is not worth it.
The truth is that homeschoolers are making the government schools look so bad that they can't say we aren't educating our children properly anymore. (You would think that they would be asking us what we are doing and try to duplicate it!) SAT/ACT and other test scores are proving that we are doing a superior job. ("Seek ye first") So, now they have to come up with something to complain about, and socialization is the chosen subject. All studies, however, prove that the homeschooled child is better at socializing with all age groups than those who are in the public school system (and are peer-dependent.) How many public school kids will carry on a conversation with you beyond."Yes." .. "No". "I dunno".. .. "LikeLikeLike." (That drives me crazy!!!)
The bible says, "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child.." A fool around a bunch of other fools all day long will surely not produce wisdom. Put a bunch of kids together and you have a bunch of foolishness. We desire wisdom, do we not?
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