Understanding Emotional Affair

An emotional affair is the last thing that any couple would probably want to deal

with that's why many of them are vulnerable and unprepared to deal with it. Disturbance within the relationship usually starts when one partner felt being neglected and angry and at the same time don't know how to respond knowing that the other partner is spending so much time with someone.

It's good to know that there are behavioral patterns to help you identify and separate your partner's colleagues from his so-called "friends." The fact that many of these denials often lead to full blown sexual contacts, is already enough to get rid of it right off the bat.

Interestingly, this affair usually sprouts out from community groups, internet chat rooms or personal messengers with an initial goal that's totally unrelated with sexual perversion. Apparently, it's all about having someone ready to listen or the need for each other's support.

This emotional affair could go on more deeply that it now involves sharing intimate secrets between each other's own relationship. Those secrets not meant to be shared outside marriage. The feeling is strange but it continues to grow day by day.

The feeling intensifies, and there is now the longing to talk to that person every day. There's always that excitement that's clearly more than what you share with your original partner. These frequent "friendly talks" are usually hidden and is a carefully guarded secret. Little by little, it's taking more of your time and energy from emails to phone calls. If you're being asked about this friendship, you become defensive and will divert the talks to some other topics. If you're doing this now, then you've completed your "friendship" stage and you're on to the next level.

It becomes an emotional affair if:

1. You're sharing intimate moments with your friend that you don't usually do with your original partner.

2. You're diverting time and energy into this new relationship rather than spending it with your family.

3. You hide this "friendship" from your partner.

4. You can't share any of these to your partner.

5. You will feel annoyed, angry and uncomfortable if your original partner would do the same.

6. You feel excited every time you see or talk with your friend and less with your original partner.

It all started in an innocent affair that's now trying to destroy your relationship. Affairs that involve emotions are harder to heal than casual sex encounters. Typically, the women will find it hard to get over with emotional connections while on the part of the men, if such affair involved sexual contact. Whatever it is, clearly, such matter will test one's loyalty.

If you believe that your partner is having an affair with somebody, invite him/her for a talk. Bring up your concerns, have a clear understanding of what is going on between the two of you. Let your partner be aware of what emotional affair is and how it can ruin your relationship.

Understanding Emotional Affair

By: Garry Frizzell

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