Warning Signs of a Break Up – Your Survival Guide!

If you see warning signs of a break up you need to act rapidly to avoid splitting up

. It is a lot easier to avert a split then to try to reconcile after the incident.

So what should you be looking out for? The obvious one is if you are both always at loggerheads. I believe it is healthy for couples to quarrel occasionally as making up is fun! But when you just fight and don't make friends, you are on risky ground.

Perhaps worse is when you have gone past the stage of hostility and now just ignore one another. There is nothing lonelier than sharing a double bed with someone and having enough room to drive a gigantic bus between you. Some of the loneliest people are those that are in a wrecked relationship.

Another sign you could look for is whether your partner prefers to spend time with other people. Now don't get paranoid on me. No matter how much they love you, we all need some time out with our own friends. It is when your partner is spending more time with the other people, than with you and your family that you need to worry.
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If you see any signs of difficulty, you cannot ignore them, but you need to deal with it at this instant. Before you tackle your partner, you need to first decide what you want. Do you see a future with this personality? If you do then you need to fight for your happiness; but in a very nice way. Shouting matches or physical violence is not the way forward.

If you have children arrange for a friend to mind them. Ask your other half out for the evening. If you go to a public place like a bistro, the conversation is less likely to descend into a quarrel.

Don't jump into the chat by flinging accusations or telling your other half how let down/ignored/unhappy you feel. You will only put them on the defensive and that will lead to a quarrel. Instead, ask them how they are feeling. Are they happy with the current state of affairs? Is there anything they feel could be better?

Listen to what they say and try to stay tranquil and non judgemental. It is not going to be trouble-free and you may have to listen to some painful stuff. But you want your relationship to work out don't you.