You may wonder why there are many people who are engaging into marriage but doesnt know anything about it
. They are thinking that it is just trial and error. You may love that person for this period of time and if the feeling is gone, you say goodbye. Marriage is not like that. Marriage should be thought of a hundred times or even thousands of times. Before engaging into this matter, both of you should know each other well. We undergo a process.
You can never call it marriage if two people engaging to it are not committed. There are many broken family nowadays and it is because of separation, of divorce. If it is real love that you are feeling to the other person then it is suppose to last forever. One way to know if you really love that person is during trials and problems. Love will not melt if trials and problems come. It is the other way around. Trials and problems are supposed to strengthen you and make you love each other more. We should remember that without love in everything that we are doing all our efforts would be useless. Before going to marriage we must ask ourselves if we are ready to spend the rest of our life with that person.
To save marriage alone is having someone whom you are sure that you will never leave her or him despite the trials that will come. That during trials and problems you are suppose to help each other and not bicker with each other, that love that you have inside of you are far greater than those problems.
To save marriage alone is showing love to your partner every day. Simple things that will make him or her feel loved by you. Even though both of you have work and there are times that you tend to get busy, dont let youre being busy make a barrier between the two of you. You can schedule a dinner between the two of you or walking together when you are going home or you can give him or her stuff toys saying I love you during work. Always show your concern and love for each other. Always give time for each other.
To save marriage alone is keeping the communication open. If you have arguments about certain things or someone had hurt the feeling of the other one. If there is something that is needed to talk about, talk about it. Do not let the day pass without having to sort it out. There are times that we are keeping things for ourselves. Then hurt that we feel just got stored inside us and another hurt comes and we didnt say it. Then those things and negative feelings that you have to say to him or her eventually stores up and it is increasing and becoming bigger. The love that you have for him or her suddenly was over power with those things that are left unsaid. Always keep the communication line open. Successful marriage requires a loving heart that will not tolerate your wrongdoings and is willing to forgive you no matter what.