Why Do Most Couples Fail To Reconcile?

There are many couples that break up every day all over the world

. Lots of them try to get back together after the break up, but a great percentage do not succeed. What are the reasons for this situation?

The main reason many couples do not succeed is that they try to get back together too soon. The worst moment to re conciliate is just after the break up. There has been not enough time to think about the relationship and the problems that caused the end of it. All the emotions involved in a break up still appear, affecting the thoughts.

It is not his or her fault, nobody has been taught how to behave after a break up. Everybody tend to try to fix things immediately, trying to communicate with the ex girlfriend or boyfriend without waiting at least a few days or a week.

Each breakup occurs for different reasons, but in most cases at least one of the two members of the couple ends the relationship being very angry with the other. Imagine if you are very angry and you start to receive phone calls or text messages several times a day from your ex begging to start again the relationship.

What happens in this cases is that the one who is very angry becomes angrier and there is no chance of getting back together. After this sort of message terrorism, the chances of getting back together disappear.

The best first move should be to stop all type of communication for a certain period of time, not less than three weeks or one month. During that period each one should focus on his or her personal life, trying to not be thinking all the time about the broken relationship. A good idea is to start to do exercise, to show the other one he or she is doing well without the other.

A depressed man or woman who is only thinking about the broken relationship all the time, feeling depressed, not taking care of their body is not very attractive for the other.

After that period of no communication, if love really existed in the couple, they will start to miss each other, and reconciliation will be possible. And if that does not happen, you can be sure the decision to end the relationship has been taken without all the emotions involved in a break up the first days after it happened.

by: Tim Holbeck

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