Winning Your Ex Back
Winning Your Ex Back
Winning Your Ex BackHumans are undoubtedly relational beings. They revel in healthy social settings where they derive their self-esteem and sense of belonging. You have no doubt heard people say that their families are the most precious possession. That is why we come apart when a meaningful relationship crumbles.
Being in a healthy relationship is a blissful thing and is desired by almost anyone. Unfortunately, every year, thousands of couples call it quits. This can be for any reason or another. In some cases, where abuse was prevalent, the separation is actually recommended. Regardless of the reason for the breakup, there is a sense of loss associated with the whole ordeal. Couples that break up report feeling acute sadness, anger, betrayal. This can even be accompanied by a sense of lost self-esteem and even depression. There is however, a way to win your ex back. It may be a sacrificial journey on both of you and if you are willing to stick it out, learn your partner and yourself and then make the needed changes you can win in the end. Let us look at some points regarding winning back your mate.
During the breakup process, many people act like it's the end of the world. They therefore use this opportunity to vent and release all the pent-up emotions that had accumulated over the years. In the process, words are exchanged that could further damn the relationship. If you are aspiring to rebuild the relationship, you must remember that what you say and do during the breakup period can be used against you. Avoid emotional outbursts especially those laced with hate, bitterness and anger even if you feel that you were wronged. Be as friendly and are restrained as you can possibly be. It is understandable that emotions run high in a relationship breakup especially if infidelity was an issue.
Another key sacrificial move you can make is to remain on cordial terms with your ex's friends and family. While it is not recommended that you hound them or stalk them, you cannot afford to be hostile to them. This is because they can be a helpful line of defense when the appropriate time comes. This time can be, if your ex is having an affair, when the allure of the affair wears off and your ex starts missing you.
If you are aspiring to win back your ex, you must also resist the urge to constantly initiate contact. This means that you must stay low profile and wait until your ex contacts you instead. The idea is to remain mysterious during this stage. Another useful purpose of refraining from contacting your ex is that you allow time for your heart to heal. As we mentioned earlier, any breakup will involve collateral damage to your feelings and emotional well-being. If a relationship broke up under a cloud of intense anger, then there is emotional bruising and it is not recommended that you initiate contact this early.
Time also allows you to reflect on the circumstances surrounding the demise of the relationship. It also allows you to look inside yourself and see what role you played and how you can change.