Winning Your Family Back After Your Wife Cheated On You

There are just so many things not taught in school like why people cheat on their spouses

, how to deal with and forgive a cheating spouse, or even how to recover from an affair. All these things are simply seen from television shows, read from online articles, or heard from marriage counselors.

Somehow, experience can be a good teacher especially if the course description is Cheating 101. The impact of a cheating issue can be devastating, but we don't get to experience cheating as many as we ought to because it is just so not right to be repeated again.

The fact that cheating can destroy lives and families, its counter indication lies in the hands of the person who better understands the situation and who is eager to salvage the drowning marriage.

You are ready to forgive, forget, and move on with your marriage. The problem is, your wife may not be. She's the one that cheated. You're ready to forgive. What's the problem right?

Calm after the Storm

Is there anything left there in your heart after you let out the word forgiveness from your mouth? That is natural. Negative feelings don't disappear overnight. It may take weeks, months, or even years before they completely change into another form.

When you have children in the mix, emotions are close to the surface and explosive. You have to find a way to reign in your emotions as the two of you try to find common ground and figure out where and when in your marriage things began to go downhill.

Although you might be screaming for settling scores, but just forget about that first. Your goal is not how to get rid of those negative feelings, but to salvage the marriage.

Straighten It Out

You never really do away with negative emotions. Although forgiveness has been bestowed there are still leftovers from the affair. Try not to let this leftovers stir you again. For the sake of the marriage, calm yourself down even if she was the one who cheated on you.

Jog your memory about the good times that you have had together. Convince her that you can do these things again if both of you roll up your sleeves and work out the marriage.

Plan for the Future

While this is a time where it is important to take one step (and one day) at a time, it is also important to begin making plans and setting goals for the future. Your marriage and your family need the challenge of future goals and the reward of things to look forward to. Sit down together and come up with a few of your own for the romantic aspect of your marriage as well as for the entire family.

by: T Dub Jackson.

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