Mediation Saves Money on a Divorce One of the hardest things about divorce is its cost, not just emotionally and psychologically, but in cold hard cash. A typical scenario is a husband, wife and two attorneys. Add the expense of outside experts if there are disputes over who can better parent their children or the valuation of an asset such as a business that one or both owns, and the bottom line is fees well into five figures for each...more
Can a Divorce Be Constructive? In the previous article, I wrote about how a change in the way I bill my clients has reduced the combativeness in the cases I handle. And, because there is less fighting, my client's legal bills have been reduced. What was this change? I insist that my clients keep their payments up to date. In the past, I would "carry" my clients until the case was concluded, believing this was more compassionate when their...more
Divorce Can Be A Fresh Start Divorce is, quite literally, a termination point. A union of two lives, whether over several years or just a few months, comes to an end with the strike of a judge's gavel. At that moment, one road travelled together ends and two new roads must be built and navigated separately.Before the union can be dissolved, though, its fruits...from children to lake cottages...must be accounted for and allocated between the parties. At the beginning of a divorce, husband and wife will do a lot of looking back taking stock of what they accumulated. But, for a divorce to deliver its full measure of liberation, it should also be a time for looking forward.Minimally, the court will require both husband and wife to estimate what their individual income and living expenses will be so it can determine how child support expenses will be divided, and if one spouse will have a duty to support the other after the marriage.From my perspective, though, the opportunity presented by divorce is far greater than that. It's a chance to begin anew, to restructure one's life. Helping my clients define who they want to be after divorce is an important part of my practice, which...more
Hiring a divorce lawyer takes time and understanding. You cannot hire a lawyer you find in the phone book and hope for the process to go smoothly. Divorces are almost always complex, especially when children are involved in the family, and you should know that the lawyer you hire has the necessary experience to represent you.First choose a divorce...more
Ive just moved into my new house and I should be happy but Im not as its the saddest thing to happen to me at this moment. I have just separated from my husband of 5 years and I feel like my whole world has fallen apart. Had our relationship ended with us arguing then I would have not been this upset.It started a month ago when he came home late...more
Is Divorce The Only Answer After Cheating - What Are Your Options? Are you wondering if divorce is the only answer after cheating? Do you want to know what your options are? Are you wondering if the option to save your marriage and get your life back is among those options?Many people who have been cheated on or are cheating on their spouses are not interested in losing their marriages. They don't want divorce. The problem is, they've been conditioned to believe that divorce is the logical next step in marriages where cheating has become a problem.When you consider the current divorce statistics side by side with the current number of couples in which one or both partners have had an affair during the relationship, you'll find that there must be a lot of marriages where at least one partner is cheating.Statistics About Cheating and DivorceYou see, nearly 50% of all marriages end in divorce these days. That number has been around for quite a while and though it is staggering, it has lost a little bit of its shock appeal over time.But, nearly 50% of all men in marriages and 40% of all women in marriages have admitted to cheating on their spouses.When coupled with the common...more
My Husband Cheated – Do We Have To Go Through A Divorce? My husband cheated on me, is divorce the only option I really have to set things straight? It really depends on what you mean by setting things straight what the answer to this...more
Should Cheating Always Cause Divorce? Cheating is commonly associated in the minds of many with divorce but should cheating always cause divorce? You might be surprised to learn that the numbers on this don't really add up.Here's what I...more
Caught Cheating? There Are Options To Divorce Believe it or not there are options to divorce for those who have been caught cheating. You might not like all of them but some of them will make it possible for you to save your marriage in the...more
Four Steps Towards Emotional Healing After Divorce Life after divorce is almost always stressful because that is simply part of the process of healing after separation. What surprises a lot of people is that they need emotional healing after...more
Four Things You Should Know About the Cost of Divorce Filing for divorce is a crucial decision for couples to make, and there are several factors that they have to consider. Couples have to remember that not only is the divorce process...more
How to Change His Mind if He Wants a Divorce – Helpful Advice for Wives Your husband doesn't want to be married anymore. He's come to you and told you as much. His reasons may run the gamut from feeling unfulfilled to wanting to experience...more