Our individual lives can be divided into stages as we grow older, go to school, enter the workforce and marriage. These particular stages can also evolve into stages within themselves as you progress in each one. Relationships are no different and most consist of five different stages. You will probably recognize where you have been, where you are now and where you are headed.The first stage is probably the best and is known by many names. ...more
When experiencing conflict in a relationship and trying to resolve problems you must decide whether you are active or passive. Active means you are taking the bull by the horns and initiate every effort to get the problems to the forefront and work on a solution.If you are passive, you are more likely to take a stand and watch approach. You are content to observe the situation almost as if its happening to someone else. You wait for your...more
How would you describe your marriage? Have you kissed lately or held hands? You say you have more important things to do and worry about now, such as paying the bills and taking care of the children. Sure, those things are very important but so is making time, quality time, for each other. Many marriages have suffered, even to the point of divorce when its only filled with labor and not love.Rediscover romance and rekindle the spark in your marriage. It can be done even though you are both older and covered up with obligations at work and home. At first you might feel guilty and selfish by spending time alone just to be together and have fun, but the guilt will fade and you might fall in love all over again. And, when you have to go back to work you do it with a renewed spirit. Your coworkers may ask why you are smiling for a change.Begin with focusing on the positive. Remember the old song that went, You have got to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, latch on to the affirmative, dont mess with Mr. In-between. Okay, you are probably not that old - but listen to the message here. Nowadays, they just say think positively and thats good too. But, make sure you...more
But, there is one benefit of a happy marriage you may not have expected and thats better health, both physical and emotional. So remember to choose your companion wisely because it could be beneficial (or harmful) to your health. Strange as it may seem, those couples who only live together dont share the same health benefits. Too, a bad and...more
But wait, you must admit there are things you should and should not do if you are to keep your marriage viable. Of course, you are advised to say I love you often and do little things that exhibit your love. You also know to communicate and be kind hearted and compassionate.A harsh word however, can cut deeply and once its out there its almost...more
But, you are determined to save your marriage and screaming for help from a rickety lifeboat of broken dreams and promises. Its hard to admit to a marriage gone bad and find yourself in a state of denial. No one wants to admit failure. You cling to any hope that some one or some thing may rescue a dying love.There are no magic words that can miraculously heal a failing marriage but sometimes they can steer you in the right direction to accept reality. Its certainly more difficult, if not impossible, if only one person in the relationship wants it to be saved. Both parties need to make an effort to recapture the old feeling and strive for healing.Marriages are easier to save when repair begins early although many say they were not even aware anything was wrong. Couples get too busy or wrapped up in their personal needs to watch for tell-tell signs of a down hill slide. Signs could include the spouse beginning to refer to me rather than we. When one spouse becomes only interested in what is good for them then the desire to continue in a relationship is fading. Lack of affection is another sign the spouse is losing interest as is staying away from home for any reason, however...more
Most relationships start off strong, filled with love and devotion. Sometimes slowly, sometimes suddenly, the love and devotion are gone and you are left bewildered. You rationalize that you did nothing wrong and fail to take any responsibility. ...more
Most learn by doing and some learn more quickly than others. Some decide they dont like the game at all and pick up their marbles and go home. Others continue to play the game even though they dont like it and are not having any fun at all. They...more
Certainly dangerous and abusive marriages should not be saved if they are beyond hope.If your spouse has been unfaithful it would be hard to forget and forgive especially if its happened more than once. Spouses who have been convicted of a criminal...more
Are you ready for another marriage? Ultimately, you must make that decision but search your inner self first with a lot of probing questions. Review your past performance and be brutally honest. Whose fault was the downfall anyway? What really...more
No matter when problems rear their ugly head in a marriage steps must be taken as soon as possible to rectify the situation or resign yourself to defeat. There are many ways to mend a troubled marriage including counseling. Many couples fail to...more
If you are reading this to learn the secrets to a happy marriage, you probably already know them and hopefully practice them daily. However, if your marriage is suffering and you are wondering if it can be fixed, the answer is yes. But, its no...more