What happened? Now one or both of you is contemplating or threatening divorce. Marriage is not what you expected and your lover turned into a husband/wife. The love you once shared is never mentioned and certainly never felt as you drift farther and farther apart. You did not realize that being together for a lifetime could seem so long.Unhappy marriages are not uncommon. Unhappiness sometimes begins on the honeymoon and sometimes years...more
As marriages mature, the definition of happiness evolves. When you were newlyweds you very likely were happy just to be together and a romantic evening consisted of a quick dinner and off to the bedroom. When newness fades and the body offers no new unexplored areas, it takes more to induce happiness.The longer you are married the more other interests take the place of each other. Each other used to be enough but with the passage of time and...more
The program was prompted by Congressional findings in 1996 that stated marriage is the foundation of a successful society. It further found that marriage is an essential institution of a successful society which promotes the interests of children. The act encourages States to strengthen marriages.The Mission Statement of the Healthy Marriage Initiative says that the programs aim is to help couples who have chosen marriage to gain greater access to marriage education services on a voluntary basis where they can acquire the skills and knowledge necessary to form and sustain a healthy marriage. Both spouses must have a deep respect for each otherThey define a healthy marriage as a mutually satisfying relationship that is beneficial to the husband and wife and also children if any are present. Its further defined as a relationship that is committed to ongoing growth utilizing the skills of effective communication and conflict management.Funds from the program may be used for competitive research and demonstration projects to test promising approaches to encourage healthy marriages. It should also promote involved, committed and responsible fatherhood by public and private...more
Some have drawn up the Ten Commandments of Marriage and used various sources for their list. It could just as easily be called the Ten Commitments of Marriage. The Bible is a valuable resource along with other good books and on line sources.Entering into a marriage with an open and hopeful heart is a good beginning. Be aware of any problems that...more
Relationship problems could be as numerous as there are people in the world. We are all unique and what one person would view as a problem, someone else might find helpful. It would be difficult if not impossible to generally pinpoint a root problem for everyone unless each person was examined individually.Since you are unique the problems you...more
This is not to say you should enter into marriage expecting problems but be aware that they will occur and if you are not prepared to handle them then that could be another problem.There is a difference between the most common problems in marriage and the most serious or threatening. Of course, any problem could be threatening if not resolved in a timely manner. Marriage counselors have said that one of the most common issues they have to resolve for couples is their ability to manage conflict. The ability to manage conflict can be more damaging than the conflict itself.The basic reasons husbands and wives fail to solve their problems themselves is lack of communication. Instead of talking the problem out and brainstorming for a solution they become defensive and refuse to take responsibility for any wrongdoing. This leads to turning their back on the issue and walking away refusing to negotiate further.When communication is tried, too often it turns into a word fight filled with name calling and criticism. No one likes to be called bad names and no one likes to be criticized so the communication attempt is interrupted and probably wont be resumed until the disrespect is...more
At least you are noticing the problems. In some marriages, problems fester and grow like a cancer without noticing. When they are finally realized and admitted, its too late and not even open heart surgery will help. So, how do you heal a broken...more
If you are married and depressed, you must determine whats causing the depression and act to overcome the weakness to feel depressed. Its not necessarily the marriage. Most of us have been depressed sometime during our lifetime brought on by...more
How would you describe a day in the life of your marriage? Do you yell at each other and argue over a small insignificant issue? No matter how small the problem, does it blow up into a major confrontation? Perhaps you have tried to work it out...more
Whatever your dream, nothing would stop you from tirelessly working to achieve your goal even if it meant foregoing certain pleasures and taking extra classes. You studied and read every book you could find to help you get better and eventually...more
Did you just experience a break up? Are you wondering how to go get an ex back? Almost nearly every adult as experienced some kind of a break up, and most just work on moving on rather than looking for a way to get an ex back. But if you are over...more
The excellent news about marriage today is that divorce rates are down. The bad news is that a rising number of unions are sad. Couples endure a sad marriage for a range of reasons but excuses often include the kids or they just hate to confess...more