3 Things You Need To Do Now If You Want Your Ex Back
Let's be frank here
Let's be frank here. You messed up, big time. You let the best thing you got going slip away and now you're beating yourself up. Well, stop it. If you really want to get your ex back, you need to grow a new set and man-up right now. Sorry to be so blunt, but she's slipping further as we speak.3 Things You Need to Do Right Now If You Want Your Ex Back:
Acknowledge Your Idiocy.It's not that guys are truly idiots, it's just that women are more evolved and, therefore, guys are just a day late and a dollar short most of the time. Whatever it was that led to the demise of your relationship probably occurred over a period of time.
Whether it was not listening, not paying attention, not caring, not being a friend, not respecting, not supporting, etc., etc. - she didn't leave because of one thing but, probably some or all of these.
It's time for you to acknowledge to her, your idiocy, with specifics. Let her know, that you completely understand why she felt that she had to leave.
Do this now: It's best to do this in a written letter. Avoid texts and IMs. If you want to try to do it with a phone call, it's best to leave a message and put the ball in her court to call you back.
Show Some Respect. Many of the problems that occur with couples is due to a lack of respect. Disrespect leads to resentment which leads to just about every other problem in a relationship. Whether you intentionally disrespected her, or not, you need to assume she feels as though you did.
You also need to know that the only way she'll even look your way again is when she clearly feels respected. How do you make her feel respected? Give her the time and space she needs. Don't badger her with calls or texts. Don't talk bad about her with your friends or relatives.
Do this now: In your letter or voice message, let her know that you respect her for what she had to do.
Don't Talk, Just Listen. First, when guys don't talk they don't risk saying anything stupid. The real value of Don't Talk, Just Listen, is that the more you listen (I mean really listen), the more trust you build. And, believe me, you need to rebuild the trust here.
Listening doesn't come natural for most people, so you may want to practice with friends or relatives. Practice asking open-ended questions and then shutting up. Practice nodding your head and making appropriate comments like, "I see", or "I understand" or "wow, I didn't realize". You need to be able to listen with empathy and without judgment. When you can do this your ex will feel safe and her barriers will fall.
Do this now : Prepare for your next contact with her by practicing essential listening skills.
If you do these 3 things right now, you will be in a much better position to get your ex back. You will clearly differentiate yourself from the idiot who let her get away in the first place.
by: Elena Morgan