4 Initial Steps You Should Take to Get Your Ex Back
4 Initial Steps You Should Take to Get Your Ex Back
So you have decided to get your ex back. You have realized that you can't live without her. (Applies to "him" also, but for the sake of convenience, we'll use "her".) You regret what has happened in the past and have decided that you won't repeat the same mistakes. And now you really, really want her back.
The problem is that you don't really know what exactly you should be doing now to get her back. Here are the very first steps you should take without which you will make it even harder to get her back. This is a tested, tried and successful method.
1. Call her up but don't let her know about your intentions.
Don't rush into telling her that you want her back. First you need to prepare her for the news. Quite possibly, she is not prepared to be together with you again because she might have already prepared herself to live without you in her life. An abrupt request to change her mind again may result in a big "NO." So don't take any chances at least during your first few calls until you are certain that she is ready to hear about your true feelings.
2. Break the Ice First.
During your first call, sound casual and friendly. Just ask her how she is and tell her that you just wanted to touch base since you haven't talked for some time. Make sure you sound calm and objective. Talk about casual stuff, like a movie that you recently watched, weather or anything that is not "heavy-duty".
3. Don't Sound Desperate.
Peter calls Suzie after a while since they broke up, "Honey, I really really want you back. I just can't live without you anymore..." and he starts sobbing over the phone. Suzie immediately hangs up and says out loud, "What a whacko! I'm glad we broke up."
Are you wondering why she did that? Don't sound desperate. Peter didn't give her any good reason as to why she should come back him. Peter only talked about his own needs and wants, which probably made her think that he is being selfish, as usual!
Don't make the same mistake. Sound positive, calm and use a pleasant tone of voice. When the time is right, you can talk about your feelings, but not how Peter talked about them.
4. Sound Sincere and humble.
It pays to sound sincere. People appreciate sincerity, however it must also reflect in your tone. So be careful about how you speak. You may want to practice in front of a mirror or do a role play with a friend. Get feedback and use it to improve your tone.
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