Probably you won't care for the reasons after she had cheated - you must
. These are the important details you need to take for granted for it could help you decide what's best in your relationship.
Your cheating wife broke your heart. Failing to get the answer to these questions can do much worse to you than simply breaking your heart.
1)How can I guarantee my health's safety? You must learn to take good care of yourself. Having an affair with a different guy is a different story. You must be armored with safety gears to avoid STDs. As much as possible keep track with your doctor so to give you advises on how to protect yourself.
2)For how long? You must be aware of the length of time your wife had affair with the other guy. Don't take it for granted for it's one of the reasons why you need to work harder to bring her back to her senses. You should not rest your case unless you are sure that she's not going to do it again.
3)Why? This is one of the first questions many women ask men when the roles are reversed but surprisingly few men ask their wives when the wife is the one doing the cheating. You need to know why she cheated before you can move forward. Otherwise, the underlying problems in the relationship that made cheating an attractive possibility will continue and she may be tempted to cheat on you again. It's not enough just to know why; you have to do something about it too.
4)Where does this leave us? Make sure to use the word "us" rather than "me" in this particular question. It shows your wife that you are still willing to try and make the marriage work. It also shows her that she's not in this alone. She feels much more alone than you realize at this moment. If she's hoping you can work things out this question will convince her you can.