Addicted To Pain And Reverse Polarity

How are you doing today?

How are you doing today?

The manner in which we respond to that question tells us more about where we are in our path to health and wholeness than anything else we are asked. When asked, do we answer that life is great and that we are living a passionate journey of abundance, health, bliss and love, or do we immediately fall back on our sad stories, sharing how weve been hurt, betrayed, abused or disappointed in the past? Why in the world would we cling to that which brings us misery?

There is a catch-22 to understanding our responsibility in the creation of our lives. Once we gave up the idea of being mere victims of the outside world, and we took on the idea that we created our reality, we had to come up with reasons why our reality wasnt so beautiful. Its not that I dont want a better life, we responded to defend ourselves, its just that my life has been so difficult that I cant move forward. With responsibility shining a light, we ran back into the shadows of victimhood.

As soon as we have the attention of others, we pull out story after story demonstrating how cruel life has been to us. We have become a society that thrives on telling our stories of woe, almostdare I say itenjoying our misery. Society has actually made it rather chic to have a horrible past. We feel more enlightened when we have come from a place of deep pain. As Dr. Carolyn Myss says, sharing our wounds, socially, has become the new form of intimacy.

As I read through the About Me section of my website, I see one sad story after another being shared. Funny thing is, that is no longer who I am at all! So what is it about myself that makes me want to compare these memories, almost as if I was competing for the Worst Life In History trophy? I fear the ego has handed me another apple. I mean, lets face it, how can I boost my ego with wonderful stories of how I healed myself if I dont have anything to heal? If I run out of pain, I need to restock so I can get back to my group where we trade punches and tell each other how sorry we are for one another. I am not going to be left outoh no! In the need to be accepted, I found new ways to excuse myself from responsibility yet again.

The truth is, we are addicted to our wounds. Ouch! I know it hurts to admit it (I flinched also), but there is a part of us that is deeply attached to our painful pasts. If we are stuck in the past, we dont have to face the future. The future, you see, is very scary. If we stay where we are, we know what to expect. It might not be great, but it is comfortable. It feels safe and it requires no effort. Life comes at us fast, and all we really want to do is stay in bed, pull the covers over our heads, and hide. We are exhausted by all the hustle and bustle of everyday living, and it seems like someone always wants something of us. We are drained. Yes, energetically drained.

by: Zach Miller

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