Are Your Marriage Problems Dictating Your Life?
Getting back on track..before your marriage derails!
"I did it. I hit her. I let myself believe it was OK because I had told myself I wasn't going to make any more empty promises. I was just tired of her hitting me. ... So I did it, I balled my hand up into a fist...and hit her. Afterward I almost blacked out, my knees became weak, I felt sick to my stomach."
"She took the kids, packed up their stuff, grabbed their passports...and was gone. I don't even know where they are. I just found out she cleaned out our bank account, and all I have left is sixty dollars to my name. I don't know what I'm going to do. The scene just replays itself like a bad movie, over and over and over in my mind."
What would you do if this was you? Or a sibling? Or a close friend? This isn't my story, but someone who used to be a friend of mine. How did I hear about this, in a email. Yes, I know you're not that "kind" of person...but do you really think you can't find yourself in this same situation? Only a fool would believe they're impervious to such incidents.
Here's my question to you: What are you doing in your marriage, on a DAILY basis, to make sure your train isn't about to 'jump the track'? What steps are you taking action on to ensure you're life is heading down the track leading to peace? Love? Happiness? Fulfillment? Purpose? Are you engaged in marriage counseling? How about a marital enrichment course? Are you and your spouse reading books or listening to audios to increase you knowledge. Are you both going to seminars to increase your skill set when it comes to knowing the right way to create a successful marriage?
Because if you're not taking PURPOSEFUL ACTION on a DAILY BASIS then you're not in control of the direction your marriage takes. And then what? Will someone get a text message or email from you that reads something like...
"And then, I cold-cocked her."
How about, "I screamed at my kids and told them how rotten they are; I'm just so stressed and don't have any support."
Perhaps, "I broke down at work and started sobbing uncontrollably."
Maybe, "I just felt so ALONE. I was having a drink and before I knew what happened I woke up in someone else's bed. I don't even know how it happened. We were just sharing a drink, having a friendly conversation...and then..."
I want to encourage you to be taking specific, measured, and actionable steps to move you closer to the marriage you want. What are you doing to create a marital relationship filled with an abundant love, passion, fulfillment, purpose & happiness you want? How are you taking responsibility for the decisions and choices you've made in the past and are currently making. Because as I learned from author, coach, & speaker Jack Canfield (the guy who wrote "Chicken Soup for the Soul" & "The Success Principles") if you're not taking 100% responsibility for the results in your life, you're simply playing a victim. And as you know, victims believe they're powerless. And if you don't have any power, how will you ever be able to create the marriage you want. How can you realize your hopes and dreams? You can't.
As you know, I've shared a TON of specific and actionable strategies you can utilize to get on & stay on track. Which ones are you currently employing? Or are you simply reading for 'information'. Information never helped anyone; taking action ALWAYS help you. It's even better to take action and find out it was the wrong action because at least in making a mistake you're getting feedback for what you can do differently to get the results you want. But if you're not even taking action in the first place you'll never get the feedback you need to get the results you want.
Don't play the victim like my old friend. Don't blame others, your spouse, feelings or situations. Don't wait for something to happen TO you. Take action! Create the life you want, and start NOW!
P.S.: Was this helpful to you? Did you learn something new or were you reminded of something you needed to be reminded of? I'd love to hear your comments or questions! If there's someone you care about & think this might be a benefit to them as well, do them a favor and "Pass it on!"
by: RealMarriageSolutions.com
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