Business And Relationships: Change Your Words, Change Your World

I have several friends who send me interesting emails

. You know the type, You Tube videos, jokes, stories you probably get a few of these, too. Recently, I received one that got me to thinking about its message, which was Change your words. Change your world. Its a message that really hit home for me, especially within the context of human Perceptual Styles.

How you perceive the world how you make meaning out of what your senses experience really does determine your world. This means that the words you choose to create meaning and share your experiences with others have a powerful impact on your life.

Weve all experienced the positive effect of a few well-chosen words the smile you get in return for a simple Thank You the glow that accompanies a compliment.

But weve all also experienced a complete disconnect with one or more people over words that seem out of context, harsh, or unnecessary. The fascinating thing to me is that the value and impact of a word changes based on our view of the world, not just on our understanding of the word itself.

For example, I know what the words always and never actually mean in fact, I doubt theres much argument out there over the meanings of these two words. But I rarely use either of them and neither do most other people with the Vision Perceptual Style.

Why? Because to us, those words feel limiting, and people of the Vision style experience the world as a series of endless possibilities. In fact, Vision folks tend to find comments like you never. or you always insulting or challenging when applied to them. Thats because they know that they dont never or always anything they respond to life as it unfolds before them, improvising as necessary to take advantage of opportunities.

But for people with the Methods Perceptual Style, always and never are simple statements of fact based on what is known from an individuals past behavior no future application is considered or implied. So from a Methods perspective, Vision people really overreact to a simple fact!

There are a million other examples of differences between Perceptual Styles when it comes to the ways we use language. Those differences have a profound impact on many aspects of our daily lives such as what marketing appeals to us and what kind turns us away, and which leaders motivate us and which leave us shaking our heads- not to mention our relationships. As a coach with 30+ years of experience, let me assure you that a key source of conflict in our personal and work relationships is the disconnections that result from the words we use (in guidelines or memos, for example, or at home, during conflicts and arguments) and what they mean to all parties involved.

So the next time you get a reaction from someone over something youve said that surprises you, stop to ask what it might mean to them before you react. Youll be amazed at the differences youll uncover and the conflicts youll avoid! When you change your words you really can you change your world.

by: Lynda-Ross Vega

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