Can't Get My Ex Back - 3 Mistakes You Should Never Make
Can't Get My Ex Back - 3 Mistakes You Should Never Make
The time has come. It has hit you like a ton of bricks. Perhaps, it even caught you totally unaware. You never saw it coming. You text. You call, but nothing is working. Your lover has broken up with you, refusing to give you another chance.
You're left wondering to yourself, "why is it that I can't get my ex back?" As far as you could tell, your problems weren't that bad, were they? However, you can't just let go of the idea that, somehow, there has to be a way to get them back. While you ponder your options, consider avoiding these critical mistakes:
1 - Reassurance
Have you tried this one? Sure you have! We all do when we get that sudden eerie glimpse of a life without our lover that so abruptly follows the announcement or realization that they are leaving us. It's hard not to say anything that you think will change their mind about leaving when they're clearly on their way out the door, right?
However, saying things like "I've changed" or "I promise, I will never do that again" is hardly going to stop your partner from leaving, let alone get an ex back after they've already left. Remember, they've already reached their breaking point. They no longer want to believe a word you say, so don't waste your time with this one.
2 - Convincing
Everyone, and I do mean everyone, tries this one. In fact, most people do this during the relationship. It's the basis of all arguments. It is essentially you trying to convince your partner that whatever idea, reasoning, side of the story, etc. that you have is the "right" one. And, they'll never buy into it, I assure you.
In fact, trying to convince someone to believe something that they do not already believe or see something in a new light is one of the most difficult feats you will ever partake in. You simply cannot change someone's mind just by talking them into it. Worse than that, by trying to convince your ex that their way of thinking is "wrong," what you will accomplish is reinforcing their belief that they should defend that very way of thinking!
3 - Confessions Of Love
Even if you haven't given this one a shot, I'm sure you've seen it in a movie (or two) before. The basic scenario on the big screen is, one person is breaking up with the other, and the one being dumped breaks down, spilling out his or her "undying love" for their fed-up lover. It doesn't work so well in the movies, and it won't work for you either.
In a fit of desperation, such as that instilled in you by those two very painful words "I'm leaving," usually the first thing to come to mind is to confess how much you love your partner. Somehow, you believe that your love, alone, is more than enough to entice her to stay. Surely, he or she couldn't possibly leave when they know just how much you really love them, right? Unfortunately, wrong.
So, while you're desperately trying to get your ex back, make sure you avoid any of these instinctive but damaging behaviors, and save yourself from additional hurt. After all, you obviously want them back, so you wouldn't want to do anything that will push them further away, now would you?