Fix Your Marriage - Would You Like Door Number 1, 2 or 3? (Hint - Avoid Door Number 1)

Fix Your Marriage - Would You Like Door Number 1

, 2 or 3? (Hint - Avoid Door Number 1)

You do not just want to fix your marriage because you feel it is broken, you want to do it to restore happiness to your life that comes from being in a healthy, loving relationship with your best friend.

Do not feel shame because your marriage is in trouble, it can happen to any couple no matter how long you have been married. For some the troubles show up quickly and for others it happens after decades.

The reasons for the failure in marriage are varied, but often a lack of communication plays a large role. Just the other day I suffered a $250 cancellation cost for an event that my wife was standing right behind me looking over my shoulder when I signed up, with her nodding approval.

But after a couple of days it became apparent that she was saying what I wanted to hear and not what she thought (my words, not hers!). Maybe it is one of those Venus versus Mars things with men and women.

And we have been married a long time!

The need to fix your marriage can arise at any time, often when you are not expecting it. Maybe you have seen it coming, but many times the optimist in us thinks that it is not as serious as it really is.

Your choices I have labeled "Door #1", "Door #2", and "Door #3".

Door Number 1 is to do nothing and hope for the best. The problem with this option for fixing your marriage is that not only does nothing get fixed, but it probably will eventually lead to divorce.

Divorce is not just costly in money, often ruining both your lives financially, but it also is terribly painful from an emotional standpoint. I am not saying divorce is never the answer, but I simply want to warn you of the consequences of doing nothing.

Door Number 2 is to get professional counseling. This can be a good option for couples who cannot even be in the same room together without fighting.

The problem with counseling is that is expensive, unless you go through a church or other benevolent organization, and if money problems are already straining the marriage, coming up with a couple hundred dollars per hour of counseling will not help.

Also there is the stigma of going to marriage counseling. You probably will not be able to keep it a secret, whether because you need a sitter for the kids, someone sees your car there repeatedly or someone working there leaks out the fact that you are there getting help to fix your marriage.

Door Number 3 is to work it out yourselves with some confidential help. This method is not for everyone because my first recommendation would be to sit down with your spouse and begin to talk about your situation. You have to be able to do this rationally and without it turning into a fight.

Both of you should bring a pen and paper and an open mind. Simply try to track down where things started going wrong in the marriage and what steps each of you can and are willing to take to turn things around.

Do not try to assign blame!

It is critical that you each concern yourselves with what you can do to help the marriage, not try to point the finger of blame at your spouse. Even if it is his or her fault, you will have a greater chance of success letting them discover that and admit fault when they are ready.

If Door Number 3 is the way you would like to fix your marriage then we can help you save your marriage in the privacy of your own home.

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