Finally you want to stand in the mirror and put a big smile on your face
, force it if you have to and affirm that you are completely confident in the specific area you are working on. For example, "I feel absolutely confident when I express my ideas and opinions with my wife." Stand up straight suck in your stomach and breathe deeply as you repeat your affirmations out loud or "out loud in your mind" at least ten times and repeat it until you feel that a significant inner emotional shift took place.