Psychological Addictive Personality
Psychological Addictive Personality
Psychological Addictive Personality
Miscommunication. Misunderstanding. Arguments. Self-Loathing. Negative thought patterns. Pain and Suffering. Who needs it? No one, yet we all seem to do it as if it's a natural extension of ourselves. Maybe you've taken notice that humans are a lot like drug addicts! Bold Statement I realize, but here's why. We all have a small part of the brain called a Pituitary Gland a small pea size part of the brain (weighing about 0.5g) that regulates many functions of the body including hormonal releases into brain neurons and receptors. These chemicals are released during onset of "emotions" such as anger, fear, happiness, etc. I'm sure you've heard of dopamine or serotonin; these are known as the "happy hormones". So why are humans like drug addicts?
The truth is whether you are a happy or a sad person you are addicted to your hormonal release, unconsciously of course. What you will find is that people put themselves into situations and circumstances (whether consciously or unconsciously) in life that will be conducive to the cultivation of these emotions. Meaning, that we literally set up the perfect circumstances for ourselves that allow us to "feel" that emotion so that the brain will release the hormone associated with it and we get our fix! Crazy, huh? 7 Billion drug addicts all running around the planet. I wonder if the U.S. Government would want to wage a war on all of us if they were aware of this phenomenon? Hmmmm
So then, how does one break their old patterns, their distraught and dysfunctional ways? Much like any drug, you have to go through withdrawal and hence so many people are adverse to truly making changes in their lives, because whether or not they are enjoying the ride, there's a comfort in the known and discomfort in the unknown. Have you ever seen those documentaries with the Heroine addicts and the guy/girl is literally crying as they get their fix because they know they don't want this, but they are so scared not to take the drug because of what may happen? That's how we all are about many (and some of us all) areas of our lives. If it's unknown or foreign to us we rather get our fix then see what's on the other side.
People are so committed to living a life where they "know" things; they actually forget how little as a specie we actually know. I don't mean to put anyone down. There are a lot of smart and capable people all over this planet, but in the truest sense of all the knowledge that is in this universe, the human race probably knows about .001% and that's being generous.
There's 3 aspects to knowing:
The things you know you know Example: I know that 2+2=4
The things you know you don't know Example: I know that I can't speak Japanese
The things you don't know, that you don't know Example: Doesn't exist, how could I know what I don't know?
What you will find is that formal education exists within the first two. If I wanted to learn Japanese, I could go to a class and learn it. Then it would move from things I know that I don't know, to the things I know that I know. The type of transformation in mind and ultimately in life that I'm speaking of in all my articles does not happen in these two areas, but rather in the third. This is similar to a "blind spot" that exists when looking at the side-view mirror on your car. You don't actually see the other car is right next to you, but it's as real as your hand and can have a major impact on your life.
If you want to break "old patterns", then the uncovering of these "blind spots" is necessary to create a foundation from which you can choose to live your life completely differently. Let me give you a simple analogy. If you've ever seen the movie The Matrix, there's a scene where Keanu Reeves character Mr. Anderson a.k.a "Neo" a.k.a "The One" has a had a "tracker bug" put into his body by the Agents (antagonists) in order to be able to track him through the Matrix. When Trinity and the others pick him up in the car and place that contraption on him to get the bug out. Neo is suddenly very worried, understandably so, he has no idea what is about to happen to him, but by the looks of the machine they just placed on his bare stomach he can tell this isn't going to be pleasant. He aggressively asks them to stop the car so he can get out and they do. It's absolutely down-pouring in this scene and as Mr. Anderson opens the door and looks down a dark road Trinity places a hand on his lap and says the simplest and most pristine thing. She says [I'm paraphrasing] "You've been down that road before, you know where it leads". This stops Mr. Anderson in his tracks and he closes the door and they proceed to get the "tracker" out of his system.
So what does this have to do with transforming your own life? Well, everything. It's simple really, if you ever want to know why you live the life you live, you need to get really honest with yourself and see that you are the common denominator in every situation. Those "a-hole" (excuse my French. I don't really get that saying, but I'm using it anyways) guys you keep meeting, those crazy girls you keep bumping into, that same distraught boss that's at every job you have, all that drama that never seems to stop how do you think these situations and these same people always seem to follow you around? Out of 7 billion people and all the seemingly random people that come in-and-out of your life, is it really possible that you'd keep meeting someone with the same characteristics? It's really not that probable. Then how come you keep meeting the same ones? (This is where I cough and take a hard look into your eyes to see if you're with me, but this is just the internet so)
Are you picking up what I'm putting down? You are, always have been, and always will be the common denominator in every situation in your life. Whether you like it or not (and I know this may seem out there), you always attract into your life exactly what you have and the only reason anything/anyone shows up over and over again is because you refuse responsibility (separate from blaming yourself), instead choosing to point the finger at the person or circumstance, and never truly learn the lesson that is being presented to you.
Now back to our friend Mr. Anderson. What stopped him from leaving? What did he notice? Well he realized a simple truth. You do the same thing, you get the same result. You do something different, you get a completely different result. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Not gonna happen! What was waiting at the end of that road was the same dead-end he always experienced in life and in that moment he knew he wanted a different result even if it meant being uncomfortable and forging ahead into the unknown. This is a lot like knowing ones own future.
Notice how in the moments of great emotional and physical challenges or any moment where you are "reacting" (most likely you go into auto-pilot in these moments) you always do what you have always done, and hence the end result is always another version of what's already happened. This is very powerful if you can step outside your normal reactions. If you know what's already going to happen as a result of your reaction, then you are also aware of a choice in that moment. And you always have choice in every moment of life. Some of you are probably shaking your heads right now and saying, "Well Guy, you are generalizing and you don't know my situation". I say to you, you are correct sir/madam, I don't know. What I do know is that even in situations and circumstances you can't stand, you still have a choice. Your choice is to choose your circumstance as it is and as it isn't. For most people this is wonderfully difficult until they understand the absolute joy and freedom that can come from surrendering to a moment in your life no matter how unenjoyably that moment seems from where yo
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