Relationship Advice - Don't Be a Chrome Partner

Author: Colin Martin

Author: Colin Martin

What in the world am I talking about now? What is a "Chrome Partner?" Well simply put, it is a common trait in many of us. You know the type...someone who is nothing but a reflection of who they are with. A relationship partner that leaves their identity at the door and becomes just like the person they are with. A partner that dumps their old friends for their lover's friends, is only interested in their lover's hobbies and even goes so far as to emulate their lover's mannerisms, lingo and tastes in food. Now, there is nothing wrong initially with sharing who you are in a relationship. You may have never appreciated Country music until your new lover turned you on to it and now you can't stop listening to it or you may have acquired a taste for clams because your partner dared you to try something new and you did. These are all great traits in a strong relationship. But the extreme of this can be an issue. One of my best friends did this to the extreme in each relationship she was in, and I didn't even notice it until a few relationships had gone by. She "became" a carbon copy of each guy she was with, even if she didn't like everything he liked. She would fake it to make him happy. She changed her taste in foods, sports teams, hobbies and friends. She even started to speak like him and dress like him. She became a reflection of who she stood next to...him. I figured that kind of attention being paid to him would boost his ego and that he would just eat it up. That turned out to be a wrong assumption. After a while, he grew tired of having a "mini me" following him around everywhere. What he really desired, as most of us do, was the essence of her. What were her desires and dreams? What were her experiences and history that he could learn from? He fell in love with her...and everything about her. But she never really brought "her" to the table. And the relationship ended... She created this same scenario three more times in the period I've known her. And she is still alone. She believes her past is below par, has nothing to offer and she isn't interesting enough. In my talks with her, she is slowly coming around. Never forget that love is a two way street. Each partner needs to give themselves to the union. That is what love is all about. If you think your partner "completes" you, that's fine...remember also to give everything about you to your lover to complete them as well. 1 + 1 = more than you could imagine. 1/2 + 1 = emptiness for you both. You are what they want...give freely! How do you create an everlasting quality for your relationship today? For nearly 20 years one man, Colin Martin, has searched for and found the number one secret to building an exceptional romantic relationship. The answer doesn't lie in the endless volumes of self help books and repetitive talk shows...but within yourself! About the Author:

Colin Martin has given over 2000 personal consultations to singles and couples alike to improve how they view their relationships.

He lives in Virginia Beach with his Son.

POST COMMENT

Relationship Advice - The Emotion of Exposure Relationship Advice - The Law of Inspiration Relationship Advice - The Kindred Spirit How To Move On After Ending Relationship Ending A Relationship - The Difficulties In Making A Complete Break From Your Ex The Other Woman - What To Do If It's You Dealing With Relationship Breakup - Important Ways Of Coping Cure A Broken Heart And Renew Your Love Life After A Breakup - Going On With Life Various Stages Of Dealing With A Breakup Coping With A Breakup Dealing With A Broken Heart - Powerful Strategies If You Are Dumped - 4 Methods Of Coping